Shaadi
ki bunyad mubashrat hai magar humarey haan aksar log iss ki alif bay
sey bhi waqif nahin yaqeen karein kuch logon ko to yeh bhi ma'aloom
nahin kay mubashrat kahan hoti hai woh exact jagah konsi hai? Iss
silsilay mein humari khawateen ki ma'aloomaat to na honey kay baraber
hain jis ki wajah sey woh azdwajii zindagi sey bharpoor andaaz sey lutf
andooz nahin hotiin bul kay aksar to shadeed jhunjhalahat (frustration)
ka shikar hoti rehti hain. Humarey haan amooman mubashrat ko achi cheez
nahin samjha jata jis ki wajah sey aksar khawateen jinsi amal mein
bharpoor shirkat aur ta'awwun nahin kartiin nateejatan woh khud bhi
aksar auqaat azdwajii lutf sey mehroom rehti hain aur khawand bhi
bharpoor jinsi sukoon aur lutf hasil nahin kar pata. Haala'n kay islam
mein shadi kay ba'ad mubashrat koi na pasandeeda cheez nahin bul kay
Allah kay nabi ney mubashrat ko naekii aur sadqa qaraar diya hai jis ka
sawab milta hai.(muslim) aur agar biwi ta'awwun na karey to woh gunah ki
murtakib hoti hai. (bukhari) Aksar khawateen kay nazdeek mubashrat ek
takleef deh cheez hai aur woh iss se khauf zada hoti hain chuna'ncha
mubashrat kay iss khud saakhta khauf ki wajah se inn ka jism tann aur
akar jata hai, khusoosan faraj (vagina) kay muscles tann jatey hain jis
ki wajah se mubashrat ka amal takleef deh ho jata hai. Lekin agar biwi
mubashrat kay doran apney jism, khusoosan faraj (vagina) kay paththo'n
(muscles) ko bilkul dheela chor dey to amooman mubashrat mein takleef
nahin hoti. Aam tor per shuru ki chund mubashraton mein kuch takleef
hoti hai lekin yeh takleef bhi uss takleef sey kam hoti hai jo aurton ko
zaiwar kay shoq main naak, kaan mein chaed karwaney sey hoti hai.
SEXUAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMEN
Jinsi
(sexually) le'haz sey mard aur aurat mein fitri tor per bohut sexual
differences (jinsi farq) hain, mard ma'amooli ishteaal (stimulation) sey
bohut jald jinsi amal kay liye tayyar ho jata hai phir jun'hi mard
jinsi tor per mushta'il ho jata hai to woh mubashrat kay zari'ay manzil
ho kar jinsi sukoon hasil karna chahta hai lekin agar woh jinsi
ishtia'al kay ba'ad manzil na ho to woh na sirf apney aap ko ghaer
mutma'in mehsoos karta hai bul kay shadeed jhunjhalaahat aur takleef
(discomfort) ka shikar ho jata hai. Agar mard ko biwi kay adum ta'awwun
ki wajah sey bar bar iss tajurbey sey guzarna parey to phir ya to woh
jins mein dilchaspi kho deta hai, ba'az intihaee surto'n mein to woh na
mardi ka shikar ho jata hai ya phir doosri aurton ki taraf maa'il ho kar
gunah ki daldal mein dhans jata hai. Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney
farmaya : "shohar jab biwi ko apni zaroorat kay liye bulaey to woh foran
uss kay liye hazir ho jaey chahey woh tanoor per bethi ho (roti paka
rahi ho)"(tirmazi) Ek doosri hadees mein irshaad hai kay shohar jab bhi
apni biwi ko apney bister per bulaey aur woh inkaar kar dey to
farishtey subah tak uss per la'anat bhejte rehtey hain (bukhari)
Jinsi tayyari kay liye waqt kay le'haz sey bhi donon mein bohut difference (farq) hai mard jinsi amal kay liye jald tayyar ho jata hai, mard do teen minute kay jinsi ishti'aal sey manzil ho kar orgasm (intiha-e-lazzat) hasil kar leta hai, jab kay aurat ko orgasm hasil karne kay liye Fitri tor per mard sey 10 guna zyada waqt ki zaroorat hai usey orgasm kay liye, 30 minute kay mohabbat kay khel (Foreplay) aur a'aza-e-makhsoosa (genitals) kay ishtia'al ki zaroorat hai. Mard aur aurat kay jinsi tajurbey bhi ek doosrey sey mukhtalif hotey hain mard bunyadi tor per jinsi haejaan ko kharij karna chahta hai jab kay aurat ka tajurba iss kay bilkul ulat hota hai aurat ko jinsi khushi uss waqt zyada mehsoos hoti hai jab uss kay jinsi haejaan mein aahista aahista izafa ho.
SEXUAL DESIRE IN MAN AND WOMEN
JINSI AMAL MAIN TAIZ AURAT (SEXUALLY ACTIVE WOMEN)
Humarey
haan taqreeban tamam biwia'n sexually active (jinsi amal mein fa'aal)
kirdar ada nahin kartiin kabhi pehel nahin kartiin, jinsi amal kay doran
woh ek zinda laash ki tarah bey hiss pari rehti hain jo kuch karna hota
hai mard hi karta hai, khawateen to apney jinsi lutf ka izhaar bhi
nahin kartiin. Aisi surat mein khawand manzil to ho jata hai magar sex
sey lutfandoz nahin ho pata yani usko bharpoor sex nahin milti jiski
wajah sey woh biwi ko bharpoor mohabbat nahin dey pata. Shayad
khawateen ka khayal hai kay agar woh sexually active (jinsi fa'aal)
hongi to khawand unko pasand nahin karey ga haqeeqat yeh hai kay aksar
mard unn aurton ko pasand kartey hain jo jinsi amal mein fa'aal
(sexually active) kirdaar ada karti hain aur khawand ko batati hain kay
woh unkay sath sex sey lutf andoz hoti hain. Amooman khayal kya jata hai
kay zyada mubashrat sehat kay liye nuqsan deh hai jab kay haqeeqat
bilkul iss kay ulat hai, aurton mein jinsi hormones ki zyada miqdaar
aurat ki haddiyon ko mazboot karti hai jo kay menopause mein patli ho
jati hain aur inn kay tootney ka khatra barh jata hai, iss kay elawa
Estrogen ki zyada miqdaar khawateen ko dil kay masa'il sey bhi bachati
hai aur zindagi ko khushi ka ehsaas deti hai. Baqaeda sex ki wajah sey
aurat san yaas (menopause) kay bohut sey masa'il sey buch jati hai jis
ka tafseeli zikar "burhapa aur jinsi zindagi" waley baab mein aaey ga.
SEX KARNAY KI LIMIT
Regular
sex mard kay liye bhi mufeed hai uska testosterone level bhi buland ho
jata hai jo mard ki jinsi khwahish aur erection (tana'u) kay liye
zaroori aur mufeed hai, iss ki wajah sey fard zyada taqatwer aur pur
aetmaad mehsoos karta hai aur jinsi amal ko umar ki aakhri hudd tak jari
rakh sakta hai. Yaad rahey kay jinsi khwahish aur tana'u ka ta'alluq
jinsi hormone kay sath hai estrogen aur testosterone kay level ko
barqaraar rakhney kay liye haftey mein 2 baar mubashrat mufeed aur
zaroori hai. Research batati hai kay orgasm bunyadi tor per aurat ki
sehat kay liye mufeed hai, waisey bhi jinsi amal sawab ka baa'iss hai
phir iss sawab kay husool mein kanjoosi kyun? Ta'hum jinsi amal sirf
mubaashirat nahin jinsi sukoon ko mubashrat kay elawa doosrey tareeqo'n
sey bhi haasil kya ja sakta hai jis ka tafseeli zikr "jinsi sukoon kay
matabadil tareeqey" waley hissey mein hoga. Humarey haan amooman larkey
larkiyan donon apni khalwat ki baatein doosrey logon ko bata dete hain
haala'n kay Allah kay nabi ney khalwat ki baatein doosron ko batane sey
sakhti sey mana'a farmaya hai. Islam mein yeh bilkul haram hai.
SEXUAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMEN
Jinsi
(sexually) le'haz sey mard aur aurat mein fitri tor per bohut sexual
differences (jinsi farq) hain, mard ma'amooli ishteaal (stimulation) sey
bohut jald jinsi amal kay liye tayyar ho jata hai phir jun'hi mard
jinsi tor per mushta'il ho jata hai to woh mubashrat kay zari'ay manzil
ho kar jinsi sukoon hasil karna chahta hai lekin agar woh jinsi
ishtia'al kay ba'ad manzil na ho to woh na sirf apney aap ko ghaer
mutma'in mehsoos karta hai bul kay shadeed jhunjhalaahat aur takleef
(discomfort) ka shikar ho jata hai. Agar mard ko biwi kay adum ta'awwun
ki wajah sey bar bar iss tajurbey sey guzarna parey to phir ya to woh
jins mein dilchaspi kho deta hai, ba'az intihaee surto'n mein to woh na
mardi ka shikar ho jata hai ya phir doosri aurton ki taraf maa'il ho kar
gunah ki daldal mein dhans jata hai. Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney
farmaya : "shohar jab biwi ko apni zaroorat kay liye bulaey to woh foran
uss kay liye hazir ho jaey chahey woh tanoor per bethi ho (roti paka
rahi ho)"(tirmazi) Ek doosri hadees mein irshaad hai kay shohar jab bhi
apni biwi ko apney bister per bulaey aur woh inkaar kar dey to
farishtey subah tak uss per la'anat bhejte rehtey hain (bukhari)Jinsi tayyari kay liye waqt kay le'haz sey bhi donon mein bohut difference (farq) hai mard jinsi amal kay liye jald tayyar ho jata hai, mard do teen minute kay jinsi ishti'aal sey manzil ho kar orgasm (intiha-e-lazzat) hasil kar leta hai, jab kay aurat ko orgasm hasil karne kay liye Fitri tor per mard sey 10 guna zyada waqt ki zaroorat hai usey orgasm kay liye, 30 minute kay mohabbat kay khel (Foreplay) aur a'aza-e-makhsoosa (genitals) kay ishtia'al ki zaroorat hai. Mard aur aurat kay jinsi tajurbey bhi ek doosrey sey mukhtalif hotey hain mard bunyadi tor per jinsi haejaan ko kharij karna chahta hai jab kay aurat ka tajurba iss kay bilkul ulat hota hai aurat ko jinsi khushi uss waqt zyada mehsoos hoti hai jab uss kay jinsi haejaan mein aahista aahista izafa ho.
SEXUAL DESIRE IN MAN AND WOMEN
Mian
biwi ki sexual desires (jinsi khwahish) bhi ek jaisi nahin hoti kabhi
mard mein kam aur aurat mein zyada hoti hai aur kabhi iss ka ulat hota
hai iss tarah kabhi khawand mein jinsi khwahish (libido) zyada hoti hai
aur kabhi biwi mein. Amooman mard ki sexual desires (jinsi khwahish)
aurat ki nisbat kuch zyada aur shadeed hoti hai, usooli tor per mard ki
jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi 17 ta 19 saal ki umar mein urooj per hoti
hai jab kay aurat kay jinsi urooj ki umar 25 ta 39 saal hai. Mard aur
aurat ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi mein tabdeeli aati rehti hai ba'az
auqaat zehni daba'u aur zyada masroofiyat ki wajah sey mard ki sexual
desires (libido) kam ho jati hai jab kay doosri taraf khawand ghar sey
bahar pur kashish khawateen ko dekhta hai jiski wajah sey usey zyada
jinsi angaekht ka samna karna parta hai iss surat mein uss kay jinsi
jazbaat foran mushta'il ho jatey hain phir woh jinsi sukoon chahta hai.
Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney farmaya: "tum mein se kisi ko jab (koi
doosri) aurat bhali mehsoos ho aur dil per chot parey to chahiyie kay
apni biwi kay sath humbister ho, iss tadbeer sey ajnabee aurat ka asar
dil sey jata rahega."(muslim)
Isliye
zaroori hai kay biwi aisi soorat e haal mein khawand kay sath ta'awwun
karey warna gunah gaar hogi. Ek survey mein ma'aloom hua kay 2/3
khawateen mardon ki nisbat mubashrat ki kam khwahish rakhti hain, Kinsey
kay survey kay mutabiq shaadi kay shuru mein khawand biwi sey zyada
mubashrat ki khwahish rakhta hai lekin darmiyani umar (35 -40) mein ulat
yani iss umar mein aurat zyada jinsi khwahish rakhti hai. Hunt kay
survey sey ma'aloom hua kay 5% aurton mein shadi kay ba'ad mubashrat ki
khwahish nisbatan kam thi yani shaadi kay ibtida'ee dino'n mein iski
jinsi khwahish kam thi magar Redook kay survey mein 33% biwiyon ney
bataya kay unki khwahish thi kay woh mojooda haalat sey zyada mubashrat
kartiin. Aksar mahireen ka khayal hai kay mard sex ko zyada ahmiat deta
hai jab kay aurat romance ko magar ba'az doosrey mahireen ka khayal hai
kay donon mubashrat chahtey hain yani donon jinsi khwahish kay hawale
sey mukhtalif nahi, doosrey alfaz mein aurat bhi sex ko bohut pasand
karti hai farq yeh hai kay aurat ko sex sey bharpoor lutf andoz honay
kay liye kam az kam 20 ta 30 minute Foreplay (mohabbat kay khel) ki
zaroorat hoti hai jab kay mard ko amooman sirf 2, 3 minute kay foreplay
ki zaroorat hai aur ba'az ko koi zaroorat nahin, woh foran jinsi amal
kay liye tayyar ho jatey hain ta'hum ek baat per saarey mahireen
muttafiq hain kay mard bunyadi tor per mubashrat aur inzal chahta hai,
woh mard jin ko bharpoor sex milti hai woh apni biwiyon ko bharpoor
mohabbat detey hain kyun kay mard kay dil aur rooh ko kholney kay liye
usey bharpoor sex ki zaroorat hai.