PEHLI MUBASHRAT -
FIRST INTERCOURSE
Mubashrat shadi ki buniyad hoti hai aur husband wife dono ka first impression hota hai."Mubashrat kay adaab" kay mutabiq hujla urusi ko khoob sajaya jaey. Kamrey ka mahol khushgawar aur pur sukoon ho. Bath room kay saath ho to ziyada behtar hoga. Bister per flowers ki paatiyan bhekbaali jaeyn. Room ko mom batti ki roshni sey sehar angaez banaya jaey. Mubashrat (intercourse) mein use honay wala zaroori saman qareeb mojood ho. Dulha aur dulhan ghusl kar kay din bhar ki thakawat ko door kar kay fresh hojaeyn. Mian tasawur karey ka biwi ko jinsi amal aur mubashrat (intercourse) kay hawaley sey kuch pata nahi hai lehaza woh isey iss silsiley mein zaroori malomat farham karey maslan biwi ko bataein kay:- Allah kay piyarey Nabi Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) ney jinsi amal ko naeki aur sadqa qarar diya hai jis ka sawab milta hai. (Muslim)
- Biwi mian kay saath ta'awwun karey. Agar woh baghaer kisi ma'aqool wajah kay ta'awun sey inkar karey to farishtey sari raat iss per laanat bhaijtey hain. (Abu Dawood, Muslim, Nisa'ee)
- Mubashrat ek purlutf amal hai agarcha pehli bar kuch takleef hoti hai. lekin agar biwi apni sari tawajjah jinsi lutf per markhooz karey to takleef ka zyada ehsaas nahi hota. Agar bharpoor ta'awwun karey aur apney jism ko dheela chor dey to takleef bhi kam hoti hai.
Pehli raat
biwi ki tawaza, dil dari aur dil joi ki jaey. Allah kay pak naabi
Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) nay Hazrat Ayesha ko doodh pilaya (ahmed)
amooman larki apnaa ghar chor kar naey ghar aur naey mahool mein aati
hai. Woh khauf ghabrahat aur nervousness ka shikar hoti hai. Woh mian
aur susral walo kay hawaley sey kay tarhan kay khadshat ka shikar hoti
hai. Iss sorat mein isey dil joi ki sakht zaroorat hoti hai. Behtar hai
kay donon 2 , 2 nafil phar leyn. Kamiyab aur pur sakoon zindagi ki dua
kareyn. Iss sey insan per sukoon hojata hai. Jis ki wajah sey tanau
(erection) bhar poor hoga aur inzal bhi jald naa hoga. Tahem agar kisi
mard ko surat e inzal ka masla hai ya khauf hai ka inzal jald ho jaey ga
to aisey fard kay liye mahireen tajweez kartey hain kay woh mubashrat (intercourse) sey 2 hours pehley khudlazaati karley. Iss sey insan jismani lehaz sey pur sukoon hojata hai aur phir mubashrat (intercourse) mein jald ejaculate nahi hota. Humarey yahan first night of marriage (shadi ki pehli raat) mubashrat (intercourse) ko
zaroori samajha jata hai Warna valima jaeyz naa hoga. Quran o Sunnah ki
roshni mein iss baat ki koi haqeeqat nahi hai. Humarey yahan amooman
nikah raat ko bohut late hota hai. Dulhan ko ghar pohonchtey pohonchtey
raat kay 2 ya 2 ½ baj jatey hain jis ki wajah sey dulha aur dulhan thak
kar choor ho jatey hain. Thakawat kay elawa donon khauf, ghabrahat aur
jhijhak ka shikar bhi hotey hain. Khusoosan agar donon pehley sey ek
doosrey sey waqif na hun. Larkay ko amooman nakami jab kay larki ko
mubashrat (intercourse) ki takleef ka khauf hota hai. Iss khauf aur anxiety ki
wajah sey amooman aurat ki faraj ki entrance tang hojati hai aur faraj
kay ander chiknaahat ki kami bhi hojaati hai jis ki wajah sey dakhool
aur mubashrat (intercourse) takleef dey hojata hai. Doosri taraf larka samajhta hai kay agar iss nay pahli night mubashrat (intercourse) naa
kiya to larki samajhai gi kay shayad mian iss qabil nahi (halan kay
aurtein amooman iss tarhan nahi sochtiin) jawani mein har mard jismani
lehaz sey normal aur jinsi amal ka puri tarhan sey ahull hota hai.
Albatta khauf aur zehni dabao
ki wajah sey baaz auqat isey tanau (erection) nahi hota yeh aain time
per khatam hojata hai jokay aik fitri amal hai. Kyun kay khauf, zehni dabao
aur tension tanau (erection) kay dushman hain. Lehaza iss sorat-e-haal
kay paesh-e-nazar pehli raat sex ko ziyada ahmiyat naa di jaey Chunancha
pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse) naa karna donon kay liye mufeed hai. Waisey bhi pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse) donon kay liye kisi had tak takleef deh hoti hai. Thakawat aur tension mein yeh takleef ziyada mehsoos hoti hai.
Behtar hai kay pehli raat donon mian biwi ghup shup karein. Ek doosrey sey waqfiyat hasil kareyn ek doosrey sey maanoos hun. Ek
doosrey ko samjhein, ek doosrey ki pasand naa pasand, jazbaat ehsaasaat
aur khwahishat sey aagahi hasil kareyn. Mubashrat (intercourse) kay
elawa kaee doosrey tareeqon sey bhi jinsi lutf hasil kiya ja sakta hai.
Maslan piyar Mohabbat ki baatein, aurat ko Mohabbat ki baatein bey hud
pasand hain. Mian biwi kay husun-o-jamal ki tareef karey. Donon kiss sey
lutf andooz hun. Aik doosrey kay jism kay lamz sey lazat hasil kareyn.
Ek doosrey kay jism per hath phaerein, massage kareyn. Biwi ko galey
lagain, bhenchain, baghal geer hun, iss kay saath liptein, yeh sab kuch
donon kay liye bohut lutf angaez hoga. Phir aik doosrey kay saath lipat
kar so jaeyn lekin agar donon ek doosrey sey pehley hi waqif hun to
bhi pehli raat mubashrat (intercourse) zaroori nahi hai. Amooman
thakawat ki wajah sey donon zyada lutf andooz nahi hotey. Agar donon
fresh hun, razi hun, to phir mubashrat (intercourse) mein koi harj
nahi. lekin agar biwi zyada khauf zada hai yeh isey bohut zyada dard
mehsoos ho to phir mubashrat (intercourse) naa kareyn. Biwi kay ta'awwun
aur razamandi kay baghaer zabardasti mubashrat (intercourse) naa ki
jaey. Iss sey biwi kay dil mein nafrat paeda ho jati hai baaz auqat iss
nafrat ki wajah sey biwi aik taweel arsey mubashrat (intercourse) sey
lutf andooz nahi ho sakti aur mubashrat (intercourse) aur jinsi amal
mein bhar poor shirkat nahi karti. Tahem behtar yehi hai kay pehley ek
do din ek doosrey ko samajhney, maanoos honay, ek doosrey kay jazbat o
ehsaasat, khwahishat, pasand aur naa pasand ko janney mein guzarein.
Mubashrat (intercourse) ko ek do din multawi karna donon kay liye bey
hudd mufeed hai. Iss sey aurat ka khauf kam hojata hai, woh zyada
ta'awwun karti hai. Doosri taraf agar mard ko surat e inzal ka khauf ya tanau ka masla hai to do din mubashrat (intercourse)
kay bajaey foreplay karney sey iss ka surat e inzal aur naakami kay
khauf bohut had tak khatam ya kam az kam bohut kam hojata hai. En days
mubashrat (intercourse) kay bajaey sirf foreplay sey jinsi lutf hasil karein. Albatta jab bhi pehlimubashrat (first intercourse) karni
ho iss ki baqaida tayyari kareyn, sham ko kam sey jald wapis ajaeyn,
khana jaldi aur halka khaein. Biwi ki tareef karein, isey bataein kay
aap ko iss raat ka barson sey intezar tha. Kaam per bhi aap isey yad
kartey rahey.
Sham
ko ghusl karlein, tooth paste karna naa bholein, apney jism aur libas
ko khusboo sey muatter karein. Foreplay sey pehley biwi kay jism
khusoosan aaza e makhsoosa ko achi tarhan dekh aur jaan lein
takay mubashrat (intercourse) mein ghalti ka imkan naa rahey. Mubashrat (intercourse) ki mansoba bandi kareyn, tasawwur mein sab kuch kareyn. Mubashrat (intercourse) sey
kam az kam 20 -30 mint pehley foreplay sey lutf andooz hun. Iss kay
liye sab sey pehley dress samaet biwi sey piyar mohabbat kareyn. Iss kay
sarey jism per hath phaerein. Iss sey baghal geer hun. Iss kay saath
liptain, apney jism ko iss kay jism kay sath milaeyn, bheenchein aur
ragrein. Iss ki gardan per hath phaerein, gardan, rukhsaar aur lips ko
kiss karein. Jaldi naa karein. Pehley apney dress utarein phir uskay. Ab
iss kay sarey jism per mukhtalif andaaz sey hath phaerein. Khusoosan
shoulders, paet, hath kay androoni hisson, ranon kay androoni hisson aur
kamar kay nichley hissey per. Ab iss kay hips aur azaa e makhsoosa ko
apney hath sey mushtael karein (tafseel foreplay waley hissey mein dekh
lein). Phir poorey jism per kiss
ki barish kardein. Khusoosan gardan kay pichley hissey, paet, rano kay
androni hisson ko kiss aur suck karna aurat ko bohut pasand hai. Ab sari
tawajja pistaan per markooz kardein. En ko mukhtalif andaaz sey
mushta'el karein. En ko kiss karein khusosan nipples ko kiss aur suck
karna aurat kay jinsi jazbaat auruj per pohoch jaateyn hain. Iss kay
saath iss kay sareen (hips) ko mushta'el karein. Aaza-e-makhsoosa per
hath phaerein. En ko puri mutthi aur fingers mein ley kar bheenchein.
Baerooni lub ko aik taraf sey pakrain aur bahir ko khenchain aur chor
dein. 6-7 time iss tarhan karein. Phir doosri taraf kay baerooni lub kay saath yehi amal karein. Isi tarhan androni lips ko bhi bari bari mushta'el
karein. Baerooni aur androoni lips kay darmiya ungli phaerein. Kabhi
kabhi faraj kay dahanay ko ungli sey mushta'el karein. Faraj aur maq'ad
ki darmiyani jagah ko mukhtalif andaaz sey chaerein. Akhir mein bazer
(clitoris) ki taraf mutawajja hun. Pehley iss ki shaft ko mukhtalif
andaaz sey chuain aur mushta'el karein. Phir iss ki tip ko mukhtalif
andaaz sey chaerein. Jaldi naa karein. Foreplay kam sey kam 20 sey 30
min ka ho. Iss kay liye watch use karein. Amooman jinsi jazbaat kay
urooj mein 5min bhi 30 min kay baraber lagtai hain. Iss sorat mein fard
foreplay ko kam waqt deta hai jis ki wajah sey biwi kay jazbaat puri
tarhan nahi ubhartey aur woh bharpoor lutf nahi uthaati. Iss
doran biwi ki faraj chikni hojaeygi. Aap bhi apney zakar ko chiknaa
karleyn, Iss sey dakhool mein aasani hogi. Mubaashirat (intercourse) kay liye tareeqa number 1 (Missionary Method) use karian. Iss mein amooman dakhool nisbatan aasaan hota hai. Biwi
ki kamar kay neechey takiya rakhleyn aur agar iss kay sareen bohut
patley hain to 2 takyey rakhein. Isski taangon kay darmiyan beth jaein.
Biwi ki taangein thori si kholein aur ooper ko uthaein. Shuru mein iss
ki taangon ko apney shoulders per naa rakhein. Iss sey dakhool deep hoga
aur biwi ko zyada takleef hogi. Ab zakar ko aaza e makhsoosa (vulva)
kay bilkul nichley hissey mein aaram sey
dakhil karein. Pura dakhil naa karein. Phir bahir nikal leyn. Pahli bar
dakhil karney sey faraj ki chiknaahat zakar per lag jaati hai iss
tarhan doosri bar dakhool ziyada aasan hoga. Ab zakar ko phir dakhil
karein. Ab pehley sey zara ziyada dakhil karein. Biwi sey kahain kay woh
aaza-e-makhsoosa (vulva) kay muscles ko bilkul dhela chor dein. Iss
sorat mein isey takleef naa hogi yeh bohut hi mamoli hogi. Tahem isey
iss takleef ko bardasht karna hoga. Takleef kay saath saath isey bai
panaah lutf bhi hasil hoga. Aik bar phir zakar ko bahir nikal leyn.
Nikalnay aur dalnay sey aurat ko bai panaah lutf miley ga. Ab pura
dakhil kardein. Dakhil karney kay baad pursukoon rahein. Dakhool kay
baad biwi kay pistaan aur bazer (clitoris) ko mushta'el karein. Amooman 5
mint kay stimulation sey aurat orgasm hasil karleyti hai. Phir aap
ahista ahista jhatkay lagain aur discharge hojaeyn. Agar aap ko zakar ko
bar bar bahir nikalnay aur dakhil karney mein inzal ka khatra ho to
phir aik hi bar dakhil karein. shuru mein thora phir ziyada karein.
Dakhool kay baad pursukoon rahein kuch deyr baad ahista ahista jhatkay
lagain. Inzal honay sey pehley ruk jaeyn aur paet sey lambai lambai
breath leyn aur zakar ko sukayrain. Inzal ka waqt guzar janay kay baad
phir ahista ahista jhatkay lagain. Inzal kay qareeb ruk jaeyn paet sey
lambai lambai breath leyn aur zakar ko phir sukayrain. Iss ko kay bar
kara ja sakta hai. Mukammal dakhool sey
parda e bakarat (Hymen) phutt jaeyga. Kuch khoon nikley ga aur biwi ko
kuch takleef bhi hogi magar isey bey panaah lazzat hasil hogi. Parda e
bakarat (Hymen) phatney ki soorat mein uss raat mubashrat (intercourse) naa karein. lekin agar biwi ko zyada takleef naa ho to iss ki khushi aur marzi sey mubashrat (intercourse) ki
ijazat hai. Agar blood naa nikley to bhi pareshan naa hun. Iss ki kaee
wajoohaat ho sakti hain. Baaz aurton ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) paedeshi
tor per hota hi nahi. Baaz ka baghaer blood nikley phat jata hai aur
baaz bachiyon ka khael kood aur haez (menses) kay days mein safai kartey
huai phat jata hai. Baaz khawateen ka parda e bakarat (Hymen) lachak
daar hota hai woh phatta hi nahi aur yeh bachey ki paedesh per hi phatta
hai. First 2 or 4 mubashrat (intercourse) mein
aurat ko kuch takleef hoti hai phir takleef nahi hoti aur phir lutf hi
lutf. Mard kay inzal sey pehley aik shafaf maddey kay chund qatrey zakar
sey nikaltey hain. Yeh koi beemari nahi. Yeh copwer gland sey nikalnay
wala solution hota hai jis ki wajah sey sperm aasani kay saath swim
kartey huai bahir aajatey hain. Iss ki wajah sey peeshaab ki naali
chikni hojaati hai jis ki wajah sey mani (semen) aasani kay saath bahir
nikal aati hai. Baaz auqaat faraj
bohut tang hoti hai yeh jinsi stimulation ki wajah sey faraj ki
entrance mein ziyada blood ajanay ki wajah sey faraj swell honay ki
wajah sey tang hojaati hai. Aisi sorat mein dakhool bohut mushkil hoti
hai. Iss sorat mein aap 20-30 mint kay foreplay kay baad apni shahadat
wali ungli chikni karkay faraj mein ahista ahista dakhil karein. Iss kay
sath sath biwi sey kahein kay woh faraj kay muscles ko dheela chordey. Iss
sey kam takleef hogi. Kuch der ungli ko sakin rakhein. Thori der baad
ungli ko ander baher harkat dein. Jab biwi isey bardasht karley to phir
ungli kay saath wali 2 fingers chikni karkay faraj mein ahista sey
dalein aur biwi faraj kay muscles ko dheela chordey. Kuch der baad inn
ko ander baher harkat dein. Iss sey amooman parda e bakarat (Hymen) phat
jata hai. Kuch blood nikalta hai aur mamoli si takleef bhi hoti hai
magar iss sey zaberdast jinsi josh bhi paida hota hai. Jab biwi 2
fingers bardasht karley to phir zakar ka dakhool aasan hojata hai. Blood
band honay per aap apney zakar ko chiknaa karein aur tareeqa number 1
(Missionary method) kay mutabiq ahista ahista faraj mein dakhil karein
aur ahista ahista jhatkay lagain. Jhatkay laganay kay saath saath aik
chikni ungli sey clitori aur doosri hath sey biwi kay pistaan ko
mushta'el karein. Taqreeban 80% khawateen ko orgasm kay husul kay liye
inkay bazer (clitoris) ko mushta'el karna zaroori hai Warna woh orgasm
hasil naa kar sakayngi. Inzal kay qareeb ruk jaeyn aur paet sey lambai
lambai breath leyn. Inzal ka waqt guzar janay kay baad phir isi amal ko
dubara karein. 2-4 times iss amal ko karein kay baad discharge hojaeyn.
Agar parda-e-bakarat (Hymen) phutt (rupture)d honay sey biwi ko ziyada
takleef ho to zakham kay ko bharnay tak 1 or 2 days mubashrat
(intercourse) nahi karein. Agar biwimubashrat (intercourse) mein bhar
poor tawun karey aur apney jism ko bilkul dhela chor dey to pahli
mubashrat (intercourse) mein isey ziyada takleef naa hogi. Itercourse
sey pehley dua pharnaa naa bholeyn. Dakhool kay baad donon mian biwi per
ghusl wajib hojata hai. Chahey inzal ho ya naa ho.
