SEX AND OLD AGE (BURHAPA OR JINSI ZINSI ZINDAGI)
SEX AND OLD AGE
BURHAPA OR JINSI ZINSI ZINDAGI)
Sunyaas (menopause) kay qareeb baeza daaniyon ki kaarkardagi batadreej kam honay lagti hai jis ki wajah sey jinsi hormone estrogen ki paedawar bhi ahista ahista kam honay lagti hai estrogen ki kami ki wajah sey aurat kay jinsi a'aza'a (female genital organs) mein kaee tabdeeliyan aa jati hain faraj ki deewarein jo pehley moti aur lachakdaar hoti hain ab patli, ghaer lachakdaar aur stiff ho jati hain ab faraj mubashrat kay doran jhatkon ko pehley ki tarah bardaasht nahin kar sakti. Iss kay elawa masaney aur peeshab ki nali mein sozish ho jati hai jis ki wajah sey boorhi aurton ko mubashrat kay foran ba'ad peeshab karney ki zaroorat parti hai aur faraj choraee aur lambaee donon atraaf mein sukarr jati hai. Baerooni lub bhi sukarr jatey hain iss tarah faraj kay dahaney mein khincha'u paeda ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey zakar ka dakhool nisbatan mushkil ho jata hai aur poorey size kay zakar ka faraj mein samana mushkil ho jata hai. Menopause kay 5 saal ba'ad faraj ki chiknahat aur ratubat kafi kam ho jati hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat aurat kay liye mushkil aur takleef deh ho sakti hai. Hormones kay ghaer mutawazan honay ki wajah sey orgasm kay waqt faraj ka sukrao iss qadar takleef deh hota hai kay aurat mubashrat sey pehlootahi aur ijtenaab karti hai ta'hum aurat 80 saal ki umar mein bhi orgasm hasil karney ki wahi salahiyat rakhti hai jo woh 30 saal ki umar mein rakhti thi. Inn haalaat mein kamyaabi kay kaee tariqey hain le'haza mayoos na hun ba'az doctor menopause kay ba'ad khawateen ko Estrogen Replacement Therapy tajweez kartey hain ek saada hal yeh hai kay faraj ki ratoobat ki kami ko poora karney kay liye jaraseem sey paak masnooee chiknaahat istaemaal ki ja sakti hai yeh baat bhi samney aaee hai kay iss masley ki bari wajah jinsi sargarmi maslan mubashrat waghaera ki kami hai.Master aur Johnson ki tehqeeq kay mutabiq woh aurtein jin ki jinsi sargarmi kam ho (ek maah mein ek baar ya kam) aur woh baqaeda khud lazzati bhi na karti hun to 60 saal ki umar kay ba'ad woh mubashrat mein takleef (painful intercourse) mehsoos karti hain aur woh aurtein jo baqaeda mubashrat karti hain (haftey mein ek ya do baar) un ko mubashrat mein koi takleef na hogi. Iss liye Master & Johnson iss baat per zor detey hain kay khawateen ko inn aur ba'az doosri wajoohaat ki wajah sey zyada umar mein bhi baqaedgi sey sex karni chahiyie. Le'haza burhapay mein jinsi amal ko jari rakhney ka inhisaar saabqa jinsi sargarmiyon aur ba'az doosri nafsiyati wajoohaat per hai mard aur aurat donon kay liye jismani wajoohaat ka kirdaar zyada ahem nahin. Burhapey mein mardon mein bhi testosterone ki paedawar mein kami aa jati hai jis ki wajah sey mard ko pehlay ki tarah fori tanau (instant erection) nahin hota bul kay iss umar mein amooman tanau (erection) der sey aata hai mardon ko iss silsiley mein pareshan honay ki zaroorat nahin kyun kay yeh ek bilkul fitri amar hai iss sey biwi yeh nateejah na nikaley kay mian ko tanau ka koi masla hai. Khawateen ko yeh ilm bhi hona chahiyie kay ba'az auqaat mardon ko tanau kay liye biwi ki madad ki zaroorat hoti hai yani biwi ko tana'u kay liye mard kay zakar ko mushta'el karna hoga yeh bhi ek normal cheez hai. na kay kamzori ta'hum iss sey khawateen yeh na samjhein kay mard mein jinsi khwahish/taaqat kam ho gaee hai.
Humarey haan boorhey logon ki jnsi zindagi kay hawaley sey logon ki raa'ey bilkul manfi hai aksar logon ka khayal hai kay 60 saal kay ba'ad boorhey logon ko sex ki zaroorat nahin aur 70 saala jorey kay jinsi amal ko bohut ghaer shaista samjha jata hai aur iss umar mein khud lazzati ko to bohut hi bura samjha jata hai. Bohut sey mard 70 saal ki umer mein biwi kay adum ta'awwun ki wajah sey khud lazzati per majboor hain aam logon ka yeh khayal bhi hai kay burhapey mein fard jinsi amal kay qabil hi nahin rehta aksar boorhey iss ghalat khayal ki wajah sey apni jinsi sargarmiyon ko mu'attel kar detey hain jis ki wajah sey kuch arsey ba'ad woh jinsi amal kay qabil hi nahin rehtey kyun kay jis cheez ko istaemaal na kya jaey (jismaani uzu) to kuch arsey ba'ad woh istaemaal kay qabil nahin rehti. Jab kay haqeeqat yeh hai kay boorhon ko bhi jawanon ki tarah sex ki zaroorat hai aurat ki sehat kay liye orgasm mufeed cheez hai agar mian biwi sehat mand hain to martey dam tak woh jinsi amal kay qabil hotey hain khusoosan aurton ko to jinsi amal mein koi diqqat paesh nahin aati kyun kay unn ko mardon ki tarah tana'u ki zaroorat nahin agarcha jinsi hormone ki kami ki wajah sey aurat aur mard donon ki jinsi khwahish (libido) kuch kam ho jati hai aur mard ko foran tana'u nahin hota aur na hi jawani ki tarah zyada sukht hota hai magar jinsi amal kay liye kafi hota hai iss tarah jawani mein aurat ki faraj mein 10 ta 30 second mein ratoobat aa jati hai magar burhapey mein 5 minute tak lag jatey hain beemari ki wajah sey ba'az auqaat jinsi amal mein ta'attul aa sakta hai magar jinsi amal kay na honay ki wajah sey jinsi salahiyat main kami aa jati hai jinsi amal na kar sakney ki bari wajah kam jinsi amal ya tark e mubashrat hai na kay koi jismaani kharabi. Boorhey logon ki ek research sey ma'aloom hua kay unn mein 75% ghaer fa'aal hain. 3, 4 saal ba'ad unn kay interview sey ma'aloom hua kay inn mein 14% ney dobara fa'aal zindagi ikhtyar karli aur baqi ghaer fa'aal rahey jis sey yeh baat samney aaee kay ghaer fa'aal jinsi zindagi kay ba'ad jinsi tor per fa'aal hona ek mushkil amar hai. Master & Johnson ney iss baat per zor diya kay burhapey mein achi jismani aur zehni sehat kay liye jinsi sargarmi zaroori hai.
Burhapey mein jinsi sargarmi ko bahaal rakhney kay liye 2 anaasir bohut ahem hain.
1. Achi jismaani aur zehni sehat:
mahireen kay mutabiq woh mian biwi jo burhapey mein mubashrat jari rakhtey hain inn ki zehni aur jismaani sehat behter hoti hai.2. Jawani mein jinsi amal mein baqaedgi:
woh mian biwi jo jawani mein haftey mein ek do baar khusoosan aisi khawateen ko burhapey mein kisi takleef ka samna nahin karna parta woh mian biwi jo jawani mein ek maah mein ek aadh baar jinsi sargarmi mein hissa letey hain woh burhapey mein ba mushkil sex sey lutf andoz hotey hain aur biwi ko takleef bhi ho sakti hai.Agarcha jinsi dilchaspi aur jinsi sargarmi umr kay sath kuch kam ho jati hai magar khaasi bari ta'adaad mein aisey log mojood hain jo 80 saal kay ba'ad bhi fa'aal jinsi zindagi guzartey hain 60 ta 71 saal kay sehatmund boorhon ki ek research sey ma'aloom hua kay inn mein 40 ta 65% kisi hudd tak ba kasrat mubashrat kartey hain. Ek survey sey ma'aloom hua kay 50 ta 80 saal ki umar mein Aksar khawateen aur taqreeban tamam mard sex mein dilchaspi rakhtey hain ek research mein sehat mund boorhon jin ki umar 80 aur 102 saal kay darmiyan thi ki jinsi zindagi ka jaeza liya gaya to ma'aloom hua kay unn mein 62% mard aur 30% aurtein ab bhi mubaashirat kartey hain albatta ba'az beemariyan maslan joron kay dard, ser kay dard, doosrey puraney dard, sugar, dil kay amraaz, peeshaab per control ki kami, heart attack, chaati ya bacha daani ka operation waghaera sex sey lutf andoz honey mein kuch rukawat sabit hotey hain. Ba'az adviyat kay istaemaal sey aurton ki jinsi khwahish mein kami ho jati hai ta'hum boorhi aurton ko mardon ki nisbat kam masail ka saamna karna parta hai magar iss kay bawajood khawateen aakhri dum tak sex sey lutf andoz ho sakti hain yeh unki amoomi sehat kay liye mufeed hai.
JINSI KHUWAHISH KI KAMI (LOW LIBIDO)
JINSI KHUWAHISH KI KAMI (LOW LIBIDO)
Aam tor per mian biwi ki jinsi dilchaspi (libido) aur khwahish ek jaisi nahin hoti bul kay donon mein farq hota hai kahin aurat ki jinsi khwahish zyada hoti hai aur kahin mard ki waisey yeh sochna aur tasawwur karna bhi na ma'aqooliyat hai kay do mukhtalif afraad ek jaisi ek jitni jinsi khwahish rakhtey hun jinsi khwahish ka ikhtilaaf aam doosrey ikhtilaaf ki tarah hai maslan kisi ko baerooni sargarmiyan pasand hain to doosrey ko gharelu ek ko football pasand hai to doosrey ko cricket ta'hum inn ikhtilafaat sey nipatney ka behtreen tariqa kuch maano aur kuch manwao ka usool hai aur yehi usool mian biwi ki mukhtalif jinsi khwahishaat kay silsilay mein bhi ikhtiyar karna hoga ek doosrey kay jinsi jazbaat ka ehtraam karna hoga. Iss surat mein zindagi bohut khushgawar hogi. 1972 kay ek survey kay mutabiq aam jorey ausatan haftey mein do baar jinsi amal sey lutf andoz hotey hain magar umar barhney kay sath iss mein kami aa jati hai. Magar ba'az auqaay fard ki jinsi khwahishat aur dilchaspi aohut kam ho jati hai aur ba'az ki bilkul hi khatam ho jati hai. Ek american survey mein 35% khawateen aur 16% mardon ney sex mein adum dilchaspi ka izhar kya kuch khawateen ki jinsi khwahish (libido) ahista ahista khatam hoti hai aur kuch ki ek dum khatam ho jati hai ba'az khawateen ko kisi moqa per khwahish hoti hai aur kisi doosrey moqa per nahin hoti iss ki wajah janney kay liye record rakhein aur baghor jaeza lein kay kab khwahish hoti hai aur kab nahin hoti amooman aisa ho sakta hai kay jab aap relax hun to khwahish ho magar jab tense hun to adum dilchaspi ka shikaar ho jaein ba'az auqaat jora kisi wajah sey sex tark kar deta hai maslan beemari, laraee jhagrey, zehni dabau aur muashi pareshani waghaera yeh bhi khwahish mein kami ka sabab ban saktey hain. Ba'az auqaat sex ko doobara shuru karna mushkil ho jata hai jab lamba arsa sex na ki jaey to isey dobara shuru karna zara mushkil ho jata hai. Hum aap ko batein gey kay aap kis tarah apni jinsi dilchaspiyon ko bahaal kar saktey hain magar iss sey pehley jinsi khwahish ki kami (low libido) ki wajoohaat ko janna hoga.
Jinsi Khwahish Ki Kami Ki Wajoohaat
(Low Libido Reasons)
Iss masley ki wajoohaat nafsiyati kay elawa jismani bhi ho sakti hain mahireen kay khayal kay mutabiq jismani ya medical wajoohaat 10% ta 20% ho sakti hain jab kay zyada ter wajoohaat nafsiyati hoti hain.
CHAND EHAM WAJOOHAT:
1. Manfi Jinsi Ta'aleem o Tarbiyat (negative sexual training):
Agarcha islam mein shaadi kay ba'ad sex ko naeki aur sadqa qarar diya hai magar phir bhi la ilmi ki wajah sey sex ko amooman bura samjha jata hai jiski wajah sey yeh masla paeda ho jata hai.
2. Mubashrat Mehramaat (incestous experience):
Ba'az
auqaat larkiyan bachpan mein qareebi azizon maslan chacha, maamoon,
bhai hatta kay walid waghaera ki jinsi zyadti ka nishana ban jati hain
phir shadeed ehsaas-e-gunah ki wajah se bachiyan sex mein dilchaspi kho
deti hain.
3. Zina biljabr:
Zina
biljabr jinsi dilchaspi mein kami ki ek ahem wajah hai waqe'aa guzarney
kay mahinon, ba'az auqaat saalo'n ba'ad bhi fard khauf ka shikar hota
hai phir shaadi kay ba'ad ju'nhi jinsi amal honey lagta hai to wahi
khauf jinsi khwahish ko kam kar deta hai.
4. Zehni Daba'u Aur Thakawat (stress and fatigue):
Jinsi
khwahish mein kami ki ek bari wajah kaam ka daba'u hai kaam dafter ka
ho ya ghar ka ya bachin ki zimme daariyan iss tarah thakawat ki wajah se
bhi jinsi khwahish kam ho jati hai aisi surat mein amooman chuttiyon
mein yeh khwahish barh jati hai.
5. Boriyat (boredome):
Ek survey mein kuch khawateen ne bataya keh shaadi kay ibteda'ee
dino'n mein unki jinsi khwahish bohut zyada thi magar ek do saal ba'd
kam ho gaee ek aadh saal ba'ad sex routine ban jati hai hatta kay ek
pasandeeda dish bhi roz kha kar boriyat ho jati hai.
6. Jazbaati Sadma (emotional trauma):
Ba'az
auqaat khawand kay kisi aur aurat se ta'alluqaat qayem ho jatey hain
ju'nhi biwi ko ilm hota hai to uski jinsi Dilchaspi aur khwahish khatam
ho jati hai iss tarah bachey ki paeda'esh, mulazimat ka khatima, kisi
qareebi aziz maslan walaeden aur behen bhai ki wafat kay ba'ad amooman
jinsi khwahishat kam ho jati hain. Ba'az beemariyon ki wajah sey aurat
ka pistaan kaat diya jata hai ya rahem nikal diya jata hai yeh aurat kay
liye ek sadma hai jo iss kay jinsi jazbaat ko manfi tor per muta'assir
karta hai.
7. Mian Biwi Kay Kharab Ta'alluqaat (relationship problems):
Mian biwi kay aapas kay ta'alluqaat joray ki jinsi zindagi per asar
andaz hotey hain agar aap ki jinsi khwahish mein kami ho chuki hai magar
aap doosrey logon ko dekh kar jinsi tor per mushta'el hoti hain, inko
dekh kar romantic mehsoos karti hain to aap kay masley ki wajah ba'hmi
ta'alluqaat ki kharabi hai. Dil mein ek doosrey kay khilaf ghussa, ek
doosrey per ilzam tarashi waghaera bharpoor jinsi ta'alluqaat mein bohut
bari rukawat hain, thori bohut tuu takar to har ghar mein hoti hai
magar jab yeh zyada ho jaey ya mustaqil surat ikhtiyar kar ley to phir
iss tarah kay masa'el paeda ho jatey hain.
8. Jinsi Adum Itmenan (lack of sexual satisfaction)
Agar
aap jinsi tor per apney khawand sey khush nahin to aap ki jinsi
khwahish mein kami ki wajah yehi adum itmenan hai. Humeray haan
khawateen ki jinsi khwahish mein kami ki sab sey bari wajah aurat ka
jinsi adum itmenan hai. Jinsi itmenan hasil karney kay chund makhsoos
tareqey hain agar khawand inn sey aagaah ho to adum itmenan ka masla
paeda nahin hota. Humaray haan mard aur aurat donon inn tareeqon sey
aagaah nahin jis ki wajah sey na khawand biwi ko mutma'en kar pata hai
aur na biwi khud apney aap ko sukoon dey sakti hai. Jab ek lamba arsa
ek aurat musalsal jinsi itmenan-o-sukoon se mehroom rehti hai to woh
shadeed uljhan ka shikar ho jati hai aur phir mazeed frustration sey
bachney kay liye la sha'oori tor per uski jinsi khwahish kam aur ba'az
auqaat khatam ho jati hai.
9. Hamal Ka Khauf (fear of pregnancy):
Ba'az
auqaat aurat kisi wajah sey mazeed bachey nahin chahti maslan pehley hi
kafi bachey hain ya aakhri bachey ki paeda'esh per aurat ko shadeed
takleef ka saamna karna para, to iss surat mein amooman aurat ki jinsi
khwahish bohut kam ho jati hai kay na mubaashirat ho gi na hamal hoga
aur na hi bacha paeda karney ki takleef.
10. Maazi Kay Tulkh Waqe'aat (bad experiences of the past):
Ba'az
auqaat aurat key zehen sey mazi kay saabqa tulkh waqe'aat maslan laraee
jhagray, khawand ka nagawar ravayya aur purani beemari waghaera nahin
nikaltey jo kay abhi tak la shaoor mein mojood hotey hain aur aurat ko
tung kar rahay hotey hain jis ki wajah sey aurat ki jinsi dilchaspi aur
khwahish kam ho jati hai.
11. Masbat Fawaed (positive benefits)
Ba'az
auqaat iss masley ki wajah bari dilchasp hoti hai yani la shaoori tor
per biwi khawand ko pareshani aur sharmindagi sey bachati hai maslan
khawand ko tana'u ya sur'at-e-inzaal ka masla hai jis ki wajah sey woh
jald manzil ho jata hai aur phir sharmindagi mehsoos karta hai aisi
surat mein biwi ko na jinsi khwahish hogi na mubaashirat ho gi aur na hi
khawand ko sharmindagi ka saamna karna parey ga.
12. Jinsi Zyaditi
Bachpan
mein bohut sey bachey jinsi zyaditi ka shikar ho jatey hain ba'az
bachey iss sey khauf zada ho jatey hain aur ba'az iss ki wajah sey
ehsaas e gunah mein mubtala ho jatey hain jis ki wajah sey unn ko sex
sey nafrat ho jati hai aur unn ki jinsi khwahish bohut kam ya bilkul
khatam ho jati hai.
Jinsi Khwahish Mein Kami Ki Medical Wajoohaat (Physical Reasons Of Low Libido)
Agarcha iss masley ki ahem wajoohaat (80%) nafsiyati hoti hain magar ba'az auqaat iss ki wajah medical bhi hoti hai.
Chund ahem medical wajoohaat darj zael hain:
1. Jinsi Hormones Ki Kami (low testosterone level):
Khwateen
o hazraat ki jinsi khwahish ka ta'alluq jinsi hormone testosterone kay
sath hota hai agar iss mein kami ho jaey to phir aurat ki jinsi khwahish
kam ho jati hai lekin aisa hota bohut hi kam hai.
2. Fitri Tabdeeliya'n (natural swing):
Ba'az
khawateen ki jinsi khwahish (libido) aur dilchaspi mahwaari kay chakkar
(menses cycle) kay sath badalti rehti hai iss tarah ba'az khawateen ki
khwahish baeza raezi (ovulation) kay dinon mein kam ho jati hai jab kay
ba'az khawateen ki yeh khwahish barh jati hai ba'az khawateen ki jinsi
khwahish baeza raezi aur mahwaari (menses) kay darmiyani arsey mein kam
ho jati hai inn dinon ba'az khawateen ka estrogen level kam ho jata hai
jis ki wajah sey aurat thakawat, ser dard aur hot flashes mehsoos karti
hai iss kay elawa faraj mein jalan aur khushki ho jati hai jo mubashrat
mein takleef (painful intercourse) ka sabab banti hain mahwaari kay
qareeb testosterone mein bhi kami ho jati hai jis ki wajah sey jinsi
khwahish (libido) kam ho jati hai yeh kami testosterone dey kar poori ki
ja sakti hai.
3. Beemariya'n (illness):
Kaee
beemariya'n bhi jinsi khwahish (libido) mein kami ka sabab banti hain
maslan depression ki wajah sey fard shadeed udaasi aur afsurdagi mehsoos
karta hai aur amooman jinsi khwahish (sexual desire) kam hojati hai iss
kay elawa depression ki adviyat bhi ba'az auqaat jinsi khwahish ko kam
kardeti hain. Sugar ki wajah sey bhi yeh masla paeda ho jata hai, aam
beemariyo'n ki wajah sey bhi jinsi dilchaspi (sexual desire) khatam ho
jati hai khusoosan agar beemari lambi ho jaey agar beemari aarzi hai to
beemari khatam honay per jinsi khwahish khud ba khud bahaal ho jati hai
ba'az auqaat khawand ki lambi beemari ki wajah sey mubashrat mein taweel
waqfa aa jata hai jis ki wajah sey jinKaeesi khwahish (libido) khatam
ho jati hai iss surat mein beemari kay khatmey per mubashrat ki shaoori
koshish ki jaey.
4. Adviyaat (medicines):
Ba'az
adviyaat kay musalsal istaemaal sey bhi jinsi khwahish (libido) ka
masla paeda ho jata hai, birth control ki adviyat kay musalsal istaemaal
sey yeh masla paeda ho sakta hai agarcha adviyaat ka asar tamaam afraad
per ek jaisa nahin hota. Kisi per kam aur kisi per zyada aur kisi per
bilkul nahin hota iss surat mein dawa chorney ki bajaey doctor sey
raabta kya jaey taa' kay woh koi mutabadil dawa tajweez kar sakey jo
jinsi khwahish (sexual desire) ko muta'assir na karti ho.
5. Hamal Aur Bachey Ki Paeda'esh (pregnancy and childbirth):
Hamal
kay doran aur bachey ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad bohut si aurton ki jinsi
khwahish (libido) kam ho jati hai hamal kay ibtedaee dinon mein ba'az
khawateen matli mehsoos karti hain jis ki wajah sey jinsi khwahish
(sexual desire) kam ho jati hai. Bachey ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad bhi aurat
jinsi dilchaspi mein kami mehsoos karti hai aur yeh masla do maah sey
do saal tak reh sakta hai. Bohut si khawateen bachey ki paeda'esh kay
ba'ad depression ka shikar ho jati hain aur yeh depression jinsi
khwahish mein kami ka sabab ban jata hai ba'az auqaat bachey ki
paeda'esh operation sey hoti hai aur zakhm mundamil nahin hota jis ki
wajah sey jinsi dilchaspi (libido) mein kami waqa'e ho jati hai.
LOW LIBIDO TREATMENT
Jinsi Jazbaat Ki Bahaali
- Jinsi jazbaat ki bahaali kay liye zaroori hai kay sab sey pehley yeh ma'aloom kya jaey kay masley ki wajah kya hai jab wajah ma'aloom ho jaey to masley ko hal karna aasaan ho jata hai.
- Agar masley ki wajah nafsiyat hai to apney tor per usey hal karna mushkil hota hai iss kay liye kisi mahir e nafsiyat sey madad leney ki zaroorat hai khusoosan agar iss ki wajah mubashrat e mehramaat, zina biljabr, jinsi zyadti, jazbaati sadma, hamal ka khauf ya maazi kay tulkh waqe'aat hain to inn ko mahir e nafsiyat ki madad kay baghaer hal karna kafi mushkil hai tajziyati nafsiyati elaj sey inka hal bohut aasan hai.
- Agar iss ki wajah manfi jinsi ta'aleem hai to phir apney ilm mein izaafa karein iss kay liye humari kitaab 'Sex Education…Sab Kay Liye' bohut mufeed sabit hogi.
- Iss masley ki ek ahem wajah zehni daba'u aur thakawat hai to iss kay hal kay liye mian kay sath hafta waar tafreeh karein kaam mein madad kay liye koi mulazima rakh lein halki phulki warzish ko apni zindagi ka hissa bana lein bachon ki adum mojoodgi mein din ko kuch aaraam kar lein.
- Sex mein yaksaaniyat ko khatam karney kay liye sex mein variety paeda karein har baar sex ka naya tariqa istaemaal karein foreplay mein bhi variety paeda karein iss hawaley sey iss kitab mein bohut sey ideas paesh kiye gaey hain khusoosan 'bharpoor azdawaji khushyian' waley baab ko bar bar parhein aur inn mein sey pasandeeda ideas ko istaemaal karein.
- Jinsi adum itmenan ki surat mein mian sey kahein kay woh iss silsiley mein kisi mahir sey madad lein mian bhi yeh kitab parh lein iss kitab mein bhi aisey tariqey bataey gaey hain jin ki madad sey woh aapko mutmaen kar sakein gey iss kitab mein Aap kay liye bhi bohut sey tips hain jin per amal kar key aap khud bhi apney aap ko khushyan muhayya kar sakti hain.
- Medical wajoohaat ki surat mein kisi achey doctor sey rabta karein uss ki madad sey aap apney jinsi jazbaat ko bahaal kar sakein gi.
- Ab aap ko kuch aisey amali tariqey bataey jaein gey jin ki madad sey aap apney jazbaat ko bahaal kar sakein gi.
NOTE:
Sab
sey pehley baahmi ta'alluqaat ko behter kiya jaey achi sex kay liye
behter ta'alluqaat bohut zaroori hain iss kay liye mandarja zael
mushqein karein:
1. Ta'areef o Tehseen Ki Mushq (appreciation exercise):
Apney
ravayyey ko masbat banaein aur ek doosrey per tanqeed karna chor dein
tanqeed kay bajaey tehseen karein iss kay liye rozana ek doosrey ki kam
az kam teen cheezon ki ta'areef karein maslan ta'areefein din kay kisi
bhi hissey mein ki ja sakti hain iss sey aap apney saathi ko mohabbat ka
paegham deingi jitni mohabbat deingi utni hi hasil hogi.
2. Caring Day Exercise:
Donon
saathi alaehda beth jaein aur 10 aisi cheezon ki list banaein jo aap
kay khayal mein aap ka sathi karta hai ya kar sakta hai jis sey zahir ho
kay woh aap ka khayal karta hai yeh koi ma'amooli cheez bhi ho sakti
hai inn mein sey bohut si cheezein rozana bhi ki ja sakti hain maslan
subah sawarey pehli cheez woh yeh karey kay woh aap ka bosa ley aur
kahey kay mein aap sey pyar karta hun mujhey aap sey mohabbat hai. Aap
kay tooth brush pey paste laga dey kaam sey wapsi per aap kay liye phool
ley aaey, aap ki pasandeeda ice cream laey, kam sey aap ko phone karey,
ikatthey warzish karna waghaera. Kaam mushkil na ho aap apni pasand ki
toffees bhi maang sakti hain. Lists tayyar karney kay ba'ad dono'n beth
jaein aur discuss karein kay har cheez ka kya mafhoom hai. List mein
jitni zyada cheezein hungi utni hi aasani kay sath rozana 2, 3 cheezein
ki ja sakein gi har sathi kam az kam 3 cheezein rozana zaroor karey
aasani kay liye inn liston ko aisi jagah latka dein jahan inn ko aasani
sey dekha ja sakey maslan bathroom kay sheeshey per ya fridge kay
darwazey waghaera per behter hai kay list rozana banaee jaey phir sham
ko check karein kay aap kay saathi ney konsi main cheezein ki hain.
3. Creating Modd:
Gupshup
kay liye kuch waqt sirf apney liye rakhein jab sirf aap donon hun ek
doosrey kay qareeb hun ek doosrey ki ta'areef karein ek doosrey kay liye
achi cheez karein.
A. Jinsi Tasawwuraat:
Din kay waqt aisey jinsi tasawwuraat (sexual thoughts) karein jo aap
kay jinsi jazbaat ko mushta'el karein yeh kisi bhi qism kay ho
saktey Agar aap kay liye yeh tariqa kamyaab ho jaey to isey zaroor
istaemaal karein ba'az auqaat kaee dinon ki mushq kay ba'ad yeh tariqa
mu'asser hota hai iss kay sath sath aap apney PC muscles ki mushq kar
kay bhi jinsi jazbaat ko baedaar kar sakein gi.
D. Chuuney Ki Mushq (touching exercise):
Jinsi
jazbaat ko ubharney kay liye chuney ka tariqa bhi kafi mu'asser hai jab
aap khawand kay paas sey guzrein to jinsi dilchaspi sey usko chuein,
kabhi bosa lein, kabhi baghalgeer hun uss kay sath lipat jaein, usko
mohabbat sey seeney sey lagaein walk kartey huey uska hath pakar lein.
TV dekhtey huey uski raan kay sath raan jorr kar bethein, muta'alla
kartey huey mohabbat aur garamjoshi kay sath uss kay sath liptein raat
ko laettey waqt uss kay sath mohabbat sey liptein, chimtein, uski peeth
per thapki dein, pyar sey khawand ki raan per hath phaerein,
thapthapaein uss sey jazbaat baedaar hotey hain iska yeh matlab nahin
kay aap kay jinsi jazbaat usi waqt bharrak uthein gey aur aap uss waqt
mubashrat karleingi ba'az auqaat kaee din yeh mushq karni parti hai tab
ja kar jinsi jazbaat baedaar hotey hain.
Agar aap ney lamba arsa mubashrat
nahin ki to phir shayad ooper wali mushqein aap kay liye zyada mu'asser
na hun kyun kay adum mubashrat kay lambey arsey ki wajah sey jinsi
ta'alluqaat sey bachna aap ki aadat ban chuki hogi iss aadat ko khatam
karney aur jisi jazbaat ko baedaar karney sey pehlay yeh note karein kay
aap mubashrat sey bachney kay liye kya tariqa istaemaal karti hain.
hain apney tasawwuraat per pabandi na lagaein aisey tasawwuraat bhi kiye
ja saktey hain jo namumkin hun ya mazhaka khaez hun asli cheez yeh hai
kay tasawwuraat aisey hun jin sey aap kay jinsi jazbaat ubhrein inki bar
bar mushq karein. Iss tarah bhi kya ja sakta hai kay kisi pursukoon
jagah sukoon sey beth jaein aur saabqa khushgawar jinsi tasawwuraat ko
zehen mein laein recall karein jab zehen mein tasweer ban jaey to iss
tasweer mein apni pasand kay mutabiq tabdiliya'n kar lein. Tasweer ko
zyada roshan, rangeen aur saaf bana lein tasweer ko bara karein aur
apney qareeb le aaein ab yeh tasweer pehley sey zyada purkashish ho jaey
gi phir her do ghantey ba'ad 30, 30 seconds key liye isi tasweer ko
dobara zehen mein la'ein.
> Romantic Literature Ka Muta'alla:
Romantic
literature ka muta'alla bhi jinsi jazbaat ko ubharta hai iss ka tareeqa
yah hai kay din mein kaee baar chund safhaat parh liye jaein iss ko
mazeed mu'asser bananey kay liye aap iss ka tasawwur bhi kar sakti hain.
> Qabal Az Waqt Tayyari Ki Mushq (anticipation exercise):
Jinsi
jazbaat ko baedaar karney ka yeh ek mu'asser tariqa hai apney khawand
ko phone karein aur raat ko sex kay hawaley sey program banaein agarcha
aap kay jinsi jazbaat baedaar nahin ta'hum aap iss tarah zahir karein
jaisey aap kay jinsi jazbaat baedaar hun iss kay liye aap ko pehlay
apney aap ko aamaada aur tayyar karna hoga. Iss kay ba'ad asal jazbaat
khud ba khud paeda ho jatey hain din mein kaee baar aap act karein kay
aap kay jazbaat baedaar hain bar bar karney sey amooman yeh baedaar ho
jatey hain. Chuna'ncha apney jinsi ravayyey mein tabdeeli laney sey
pehley yeh ma'aloom karein kay aap sex sey kis tarah pehlootahi
(avoiding) karti hain note karein kay jab jinsi ta'alluqaat mumkin hotey
hain to phir bachney kay liye aap kya karti hain ju'nhi mushahida
karlein to foran note kar lein.
Avoiding Sex In Marriage
Sex
sey bachney kay liye kya aap raat ko der tak kaam karti hain aur phir
thak kar so jati hain kya aap donon kay soney kay auqaat ek doosrey sey
mukhtalif hain aur aap ikatthey bister per nahin jatey aur na hi
ikatthey jagtey hain? Kya aap bister per jatey waqt bila nagha apney
khawand sey jhagra karti hain ya jab bhi aap ek doosrey kay qareeb hun
to aap zaroor jhagarti hain. Kya aap jinsi amal shuru honay kay waqt
khawand per tanqeed karti hain? Kya aap ko sex kay waqt purani naa
khushgawar batein yaad aati hain jin per aap ko ghussa aata hai?
Waghaera. Jab aap ko ma'aloom ho jaey kay aap kis tarah sex sey
pehlootahi karti hain to agla qadam yeh hoga kay aap iss per apney mian
sey guftugoo karein aur inn ko tabdeel karney ki koshish karein iss
silsiley mein ek doosrey ki madad karein shayad ab aap ko pehel karney
mein sharmindagi mehsoos na hu. Aap ko kaee tarah kay khauf o khadshaat
bhi ho saktey hain maslan yeh khauf kay shayad aap achi tarah sex na kar
sakein yeh khauf kay ab shayad aap kay khawand kay liye aap mein koi
kashish nahin inn khadshaat ko mian kay saath discuss karein iss sey yeh
khadshaat bilkul khatam na hongey magar bohut hadd tak kam ho jaeingey
inn ko kam karney kay liye mushtarka koshish karein.
Avoiding Sex In Marriage Treatment:
- Jinsi ta'alluqaat ko bahal karney kay liye sab sey pehley avoiding sex (sex sey pehlootahi) karney waley tariqey chor dein iss kay liye mandarja zael tariqey ikhtiyar kye ja saktey hain.
- Haftey mein chund shaamein mian kay sath guzarein agar aap der tak kaam kar kay thak jati hain to haftey mein ek do din kaam ko chund ghantey pehley khatam karlein ya subah tak multawi kar dein aur raat ki bajaey subah ko kar lein har waqt mian kay sath rehney ki zaroorat nahin woh bhi boriyat ka sabab banta hai bul kay chund achi shaamon sey lutf andoz hun.
- Agar aap kaam kaaj kay ba'ad pyar mohabbat kay waqt zehni daba'u mehsoos karti hain to donon mian biwi routine mein ikatthey ghusl karlein, shower lein aap donon haftey mein chund raatein gup shup aur khelon kay liye makhtus kar saktey hain maslan ludo, kaeram board, taash waghaera yeh saarey kaam bister per bhi ho saktey hain, wahin sey inn khelon sey mohabbat kay khel (foreplay) ki taraf bhi ja saktey hain.
- Yeh cheez bhi kafi aam hai kay donon mian biwi ki bunyadi jismani saakht mein farq hota hai maslan ek raat ko der tak jaagta hai doosra jald so jata hai ek subah der sey uthta hai doosra jald iss surat mein mubashrat ya to dopaher ko ya phir subah zara der sey ho sakti hai. Mulaazimat, business aur bachon ki wajah sey amooman aisa hona mushkil hota hai le'haza yeh baat bari ahem hai kay haftey mein chund raatein ikatthey soein aur ikatthey jaagein iss kay liye jald soney wala din ko soey ya raat ko coffee ka ek cup pee ley.
- Agar donon mian biwi iss bunyad per sex karney sey ghabratey hain kay kahin mustarid na kar diye jaein aur inkaar aur mustarid hona unko bura lagta hai to iss kay liye sex kay liye paeshgi din aur waqt muqarrar kya ja sakta hai. Iss surat mein pehel kartey waqt mustarid honay ka khatra nahin hota. Iss kay elawa paeshgi planning sey sex ko zyada khushgawar banaya ja sakta hai. Ab chu'n kay aap ney apney aap ko iss makhsoos moqa kay liye sex kay liye tayyar karna hai yeh cheez aap kay jinsi jazbaat ko paeshgi baedaar kar degi.
Negative Thought Stopping:
Agar
aap ko apney saathi kay maazi kay na khushgawar ravayyey kay hawaley
sey khayalaat pareshan kartey hain to inko rokney kay liye aankhein bund
kar kay lafz 'stop' buland aawaz sey kahein agar aap akeli nahin to
tasawwur karein kay aap ek awaz ko lafz 'stop' buland awaz sey kehtey
huey dekh rahi hain iss surat mein aap ko buland aawaz sey 'stop' kehney
ki zaroorat nahin iss tareeqey sey manfi sochein ruk jati hain. Iss
tariqey ki aap iss tarah bhi mushq kar saktey hain kay ek ghaer mufeed
khayal zehen mein laein phir ya khud buland aawaz sey lafz 'stop' kahein
ya phir ek awaz ko yehi lafz chilla kar kehtey huey tasawwur karein aur
aankhein bund rakhtey huey ek lamba saans lein aur phir tasawwur ki
madad sey apney aap ko maazi ki kisi khubsurat aur pursukoon jagah ley
jaein ya phir aap lafz 'stop' kay nishan ka tasawwur karein ya aap apney
dimagh mein jo awaz sunti hain iss ko kam kar kay off kardein ya awaz
ko apney jism sey nikal kar duur faasley per kar dein, duur ley jaein.
Agar yeh manfi sochein tasawwur ki surat mein aati hain jiss mein aap ka
sathi aap sey badtameezi sey paesh aa raha hai to tasawwur ko dhundhla
kardein, chota kar dein aur duur ley jaein iss kay asraat khatam ho
jaein gey ek do baar karney sey yeh tasawwur dobara nahin ubhrey ga.FRIGIDITY (JINSI SARDMEHRI)
FRIGIDITY (JINSI SARDMEHRI)
Khwateen
kay jinsi lutf mein sab sey bari rukawat jinsi sardmehri hai iss
beemari mein aurat jinsi ishte'aal sey awwal to jinsi lutf hasil nahin
kar pati ya bohut hi ma'amooli lutf mehsoos karti hai aisi aurtein
orgasm hasil nahin kartiin jinsi sardmehri mein aurat na sirf jinsi lutf
kay ehsaasaat mehsoos nahin karti bul kay jismani jinsi ishte'aal sey
uski faraj mein chiknahat bhi nahin hoti bohut hi ma'amooli aur bara'ey
naam chiknahat hoti hai isey jinsi bey hisi bhi kehtey hain
Jinsi sardmehri ki do aqsaam hain
- Ibteda'ee Sardmehri (iss mein aurat ney kabhi jinsi lutf hasil nahin kya hota)
- Saanvi Sardmehri (iss mein aurat ba'az auqaat jinsi ishte'aal sey kuch jinsi lazzat mehsoos karti hai aur ba'az khawateen sirf kisi khaas mahol mein jinsi ishte'aal sey jinsi lutf mehsoos karti hain)
Jinsi Sardmehri - Elaj (Frgidity Treatment):
Jinsi sardmehri ki wajah amooman nafsiyati hoti hai chuna'ncha iss kay liye tajziyati nafsiyati elaj ki zaroorat hoti hai magar nafsiyati elaj sey pehley mandarja zael per amal kar kay iss masley ko hal karney ki koshish ki ja sakti hai . Bohut si khawateen iss sey faeda utha leti hain.
Jinsi Ehsasaat Per Tawajjuh Markooz Karney Ki Mushq
Sab
sey pehley jora kuch arsey kay liye mubashrat aur orgasm kay husool ki
koshish tark kar dey, iss ki bajaey apni saari tawajjuh jinsi sargarmi
maslan ek doosrey kay jism ko chuney, sehlaney, thapthapaney, bos o
kinar (kissing), galey laganey aur baghal geer honay tak mehdood kardey
iss amal mein pehley aurat khawand kay jism ko chuti, sehlati,
thapthapati aur bos o kinar (kissing) waghaera karti hai iss kay ba'ad
yehi amal khawand dohrata hai iss doran aap ney apni sari tawajjuh jinsi
ehsaasaat per markooz karni hai aksar auqaat iss mushq kay masbat
asraat dramaee tor per zahir hotey hain amooman aurat jald hi jinsi lutf
mehsoos karney lagti hai aur iss tarah pehli bar jinsi lutf hasil
karleti hai aurat iss doran apni sari tawajjah chuney aur doosri
sargarmiyon kay ehsaasat per markooz karey Yeh mushq rozana uss waqt ki
jaey jab mian biwi donon bohut pursukoon hun, mahol bhi pursukoon aur
jinsi jazbaat ko ubharney wala ho. Rozana kam az kam aadha ghanta yeh
mushq ki jaey iss mushq mein ek doosrey kay jism ka massage kya jaey
magar a'aaza e makhsoosa khusoosan aurat kay a'aaza e makhsoosa (female
genitalia) ko na chu'a jaey.Stimulation Of Female Genitalia
A'aaza e Makhsoosa Ka Ishte'aal
Jab
aurat ko jinsi ishte'aal sey jinsi lutf aur lazzat mehsoos honay lagey
to phir iss mushq ko a'aaza e makhsoosa tak phaela diya jaey iss mein
a'aaza e makhsoosa ko bohut hi halkey phulkey andaz mein chu'aa aur
mushta'el kya jaey pehley khawand biwi kay jism ko chu'ey aur sehlaey,
thapthapaey, bos o kinar (kissing) aur massage karey phir bohut pyar aur
aaraam sey aap kay pistaano'n kay nipples ko chuey aur mushta'el karey
phir faraj kay dahaney ya iss kay ibteda'ee hassas hissey aur bazer aur
iss kay ird gird kay hissey ko chua aur mushta'el kya jaey lekin orgasm
hasil karney ki koshish na ki jaey yani iss mushq ka maqsad a'aaza e
makhsoosa kay ishte'aal sey lutfandoz hona hai naa kay orgasm ka husool.
Chuney aur massage kay waqt chiknahat zaroor istaemaal ki jaey warna
aurat ko takleef ho sakti hai yeh sab kuch biwi ki hidayaat aur pasand
kay mutabiq kya jaey agar khawand iss mushq mein poori tarah dilchaspi
na ley to aurat pehley uss ko mutabadil jinsi tariqon (sexual
satisfaction alternatives) sey jinsi sukoon muhayya kar dey to phir woh
bhi iss mushq mein dilchaspi ley ga mushq mein position mian biwi ki
marzi ki hogi aur aurat sari tawajjuh jinsi lutf per markooz karey.
Mubashrat
Aakhri marhaley per mubashrat karni hoti hai iss mubashrat kay liye 2 sex positions zyada munasib hain.
- Pehlu ba Pehlu (Side by Side)
- Aurat ooper aur mard neechey (Woman On Top)
Jab pehli donon mushqon ki wajah sey aap jinsi ishte'aal kay urooj
per hun to phir mubashrat kay liye pehel karein gi khawand ko neechey
lita'en aur aap uss kay ooper sawar ho jaein taangein mian kay dharr kay
donon taraf hun dakhool kay ba'ad aap ki saari tawajjuh faraj ki
hassasiyat per ho kay aap ko kaisa mehsoos ho raha hai. Iss doran aap
ooper neechey stroke lagaein aur sath hi PC muscles ki mushq bhi karein
iss surat mein aap kay lazzat angaez ehsaasaat mein izafa ho jaey ga iss
mubashrat mein control aurat kay paas hota hai aur iss ka maqsad jinsi
ehsaasaat ko barhana hota hai chuna'ncha biwi sari tawajjuh faraj ki
hassasiyat per markooz karey. Agar mard inzal kay qareeb honay lagey to
donon alaehda ho jaein iss tarah mard pur sukoon ho jaey ga iss doran
mard apney haathon sey aurat ka ishte'aal jari rakhey khusoosan uss kay
hassas hisson (female genitalia) ko mushta'el karta rahey iss amal ko
kaee baar dohraya jaey agar aurat orgasm kay qareeb ho to woh khawand ko
bataey ta'kay woh apni sargarmi jari rakhey aur agar aurat orgasm kay
qareeb nahin to phir ma'aqool waqfey kay ba'ad khawand mubashrat mein
inzal ho jaey yeh mushq uss waqt tak jari rahey jab tak aurat orgasm
hasil karna shuru na ho jaey. Iss maqsad ka hussol jald bhi ho sakta hai
aur der ba'ad bhi ta'hum mustaqil mizaji sey mushq ko jari rakhein agar
yeh mushqein aap kay maqsad kay husool kay liye mufeed sabit na hun to
phir kisi achey mahir e nafsiyat sey baqaeda elaj karaein Allah ney har
maslay ka hull paeda kya hai.
TAKLEEF DE MUBASHRAT (PAINFULL INTERCOURSE)
TAKLEEF DE MUBASHRAT
(PAINFULL INTERCOURSE)
Aam
haalaat mein mubashrat ek bohut hi purlutf amal hai jis sey donon mian
biwi bey panaah lazzat aur sukoon hasil kartey hain agarcha pehli
mubashrat amooman donon mian biwi kay liye kuch takleef ka baa'iss hoti
hai khusoosan dulhan zyada takleef mehsoos karti hai aur agar parda e
bakarat (hymen) phatey to zakhm ko mundamil honay mein chund din lag
jatey hain. Iss tarah pehli chund mubashratein aurat kay liye kuch
takleef deh hoti hain, uss kay ba'ad lutf hi lutf, magar ba'az khwateen
ko iss kay ba'ad bhi mubashrat mein takleef hoti hai dard amooman kisi
jismani kharabi ko zahir karta hai. Iss surat mein pehley marhaley mein
kisi achi doctor sey apna tafseeli mua'aina karwaein orgasm hasil na
karney kay ba'ad khawateen ki yeh doosri aam jinsi beemaari hai. Takleef
deh mubashrat ki ek wajah ek beemari bhi hai iss beemaari mein aurat
mubashrat mein takleef mehsoos karti hai iss ki ka'ee wajoohaat ho sakti
hain maslan faraj mein infection ho, mubashrat kay waqt faraj mein
chiknahat ki kami bhi ek wajah hoti hai. Iss ka sabab yeh hota hai kay
aurat kay jinsi jazbaat poori tarah nahin ubhrey hotey aisi surat mein
biwi kay jinsi jazbaat ko khoob ubhara jaey jab jazbaat khoob ubhar
jatey hain to faraj mein zyada chiknahat ho jati hai phir dakhool aur
mubashrat aasaan ho jati hai. Ta'hum mubashrat ko mazeed aaraam deh
bananey kay liye masnoo'ee chiknahat ko bhi istaemal kiya jaey maslan.
EHTIYATI TADABEER:
Khawand
mubashrat kay waqt zakar ko chikna karey to phir mubashrat mein dard na
hoga. Ba'az auqaat condom kay ooper laga hua chemical ya koi cheez
maslan sabun waghaera allergy ka sabab ban jata hai jis sey mubashrat
mein takleef hoti hai aisi surat mein inn ka istaemaal bund kar kay
dekhein ba'az auqaat kisi wajah sey bacha daani, bacha daani kay mu'nh
ya qazif naaliyon mein infection ya tumor hota hai jo kay dard ka sabab
banta hai. Iss kay elawa bachay ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad bachey daani mein
zakham ki wajah sey bhi mubashrat takleef deh ho sakti hai umar kay
barhney ki wajah sey faraj mein ratoobat ki kami aur faraj ki deewaarein
patli ho jati hain to mubashrat mein dard hota hai. Ta'hum jab bhi
mubashrat mein dard ho to kisi achi doctor sey raabta karein muaaeney
kay waqt usey bataein kay mubashrat kay kis marhaley mein aur kis jagah
dard hota hai.
Takleef deh mubashrat mein amooman teen maqamaat per dard hota hai.
- Faraj (vagina) kay dahaney mein yani dakhool kay waqt.
- Gehrey dakhool mein stroke lagatey huey.
- Bazer (clitoris) mein.
SEXUAL PLEASURE OR JINSI LUTF
SEXUAL PLEASURE OR JINSI LUTF
Aurat kay jinsi lutf ki inteha ko orgasm kaha jata hai. Orgasm mein aurat kay jism kay zyada ter muscles akarr jatey hain khusoosan aurat ki taangein akarr jati hain, jism kaanpney lagta hai dil ki dharkan aur saans taez ho jati hai aur woh gehrey saans leti hai aurat ki faraj ki deewaarein ghaer iraadi tor per bar bar sukarrti (contract) hain, bazer dheela ho jata hai magar ba'az aurtein yeh sab kuch nahin kar patii'n kyun kay har aurat ki alamaat doosri sey mukhtalif hoti hain bohut si aurton ko orgasm ka pata hi nahi chalta taa'hum iss ki ahem alamat yeh hai kay auqat mubashrat sey sukoon aur itmenaan (satisfaction) hasil kar ley aur relax ho jaey. Agarcha jinsi sukoon aur lazzat ka orgasm kay sath gehra ta'alluq hai magar aurat kay liye har baar orgasm hasil karna zaroori nahin kyun kay bohut si aurtein baghaer orgasm hasil kiye bhi mutmain ho jati hain inn aurton kay liye khawand ka lums aur uss kay sath baghalgeer, hum aaghosh hona aur lipatna waghaera sukoon aur itmenaan ka baa'iss hota hai. Aur doosri taraf bohut si aurtein aisi bhi hain jo humesha orgasm hasil karti hain magar woh jinsi tor per mutmain nahin hotiin kyun kay aurat ko orgasm kay sath muhabbat ki bhi zaroorat hai, mukhtalif survey yeh batatey hain kay sirf taqreeban 30% aurtein humesha orgasm hasil karti hain aur 10% kabhi orgasm hasil nahin kartii'n, baqi kabhi hasil karti hain aur kabhi nahin. Yun to har aurat orgasm hasil kar sakti hai albatta kuch aurton ko baqa'eda tarbiyat hasil karni parti hai.
Stop And Start Method For Sexual Pleasure
Dakhool
sey pehley jinsi jazbaat ko khoob bharkaya jaey bazri ishte'aal hasil
kya jaey iss doran aapki tawajjuh jinsi ehsaasaat per markooz rahey jab
aap urooj per pohonch jaein to phir dakhool ho, mian ahista ahista
jhatkey lagaey thori der ba'ad khawand zakar ko baher nikal ley, phir
foreplay ho aur thori der ba'ad phir dakhool ho mubashrat kay doran
'stop…start method' orgasm kay husool kay liye ek acha tareeqa hai magar
sath hi bazer ko bhi mushta'il kya jaey jab mard inzal kay qareeb ho to
jhatkey lagana bund kardey iss martaba khawand zakar ko baher na
nikaley aur paet sey lambey saans ley bazer ko mushta'il karta rahey iss
doran jab mard kay inzal ka waqt guzar jaey ga to usey control hasil ho
jaey ga orgasm sey bilkul pehley bazri ishte'aal bund kar diya jaey aur
phir mian stroke lagaey to phir aap orgasm hasil karleingi mard kay
rest kay doran aap khud bazri ishte'aal ko jari rakhein taa'kay aap
jinsi urooj per rahein aur aap kay jazbaat kam na hun agar bazri
ishte'aal jari na rahey to aap kay jazbaat kam ho jaein gey aur phir sab
kuch shuru sey karna parey ga iss tarah waqt zyada lagey ga. Ba'az
mahireen ka khayal hai kay orgasm hasil karney ki zimmeydaari khud aurat
ki hai aur taqreeban her aurat orgasm hasil karna seekh sakti hai apney
jism kay hassas hisson ko khud mushta'il kar kay taqreeban har aurat
orgasm hasil kar sakti hai kisi bhi tariqey sey orgasm hasil karna iss
masley kay hal ki taraf pehla qadam hai. Agar aurat ek baar orgasm
hasil kar ley to phir dobara hasil karna aasaan ho jata hai.
TIPS FOR SEXUAL PLESURE
Orgasm
(sexual pleasure) hasil karney ki mushq kay liye ek ghanta mukhtus
karein, jab aap buhat pursukoon hun kamrey mein akeli hun baerooni
madaakhlat na ho kamrey ka darja hararat normal ho khusoosan thandak na
ho mushq sey pehley ghusl karlein kamrey ki roshni maddham ho kaprey
utaar lein saabqa kisi pur lutf tajurbey ka tasawwur karein aur apney
saarey jism per mukhtalif andaz sey hath phaerna shuru karein jism per
hath phaertey huey yeh tasawwur bhi kar sakti hain kay aap ka khawand
aapko mushta'el kar raha hai pehley kam hassas hisson per hath phaerein,
phir zyada hassas hisson per maslan pistaan, nipples, raano'n ka
androoni hissa phir a'aaza e makhsoosa (genital organs) ko chaerein,
baerooni lubon ko aur phir chikni ungli sey androoni lubo'n aur bazer
ko mukhtalif andaz sey mushta'il karein. Saari tawajjuh jinsi lutf per
markooz karein yeh mushq din mein do teen mukhtalif auqaat mein bhi ki
jasakti hai apni tawajjuh apney jinsi ehsaasaat per markooz rakhein
mushq jari rakhein hatta kay aap iss tariqey sey orgasm hasil kar lein.
Iss mein kaee haftey bhi lag saktey hain aur aap doosri teesri koshish
mein bhi kamyaab ho sakti hain mumkin hai kay aap shuru mein bore ho
jaein to phir mushq ka waqt kam karlein ba'ad azaa'n barha lein. Agar
ek ghantey ki mushq kay ba'ad aap ko sukoon mehsoos ho to shayad aapney
orgasm hasil kar liya hai check karney kay liye apni chikni ungli faraj
kay ander daakhil karein aur sath hi bazer ko bhi mushta'el karti
rahein agar aap ko mehsoos ho kay faraj aapki ungli ko bheen'ch rahi
hai to samjhein kay aap ney orgasm hasil karliya.Isi tarah agar ba'ad azaa'n aap ko bazer bohut hassas mehsoos ho to samjhein kay aapney orgasm hasil karliya ya aap bohut sukoon aur itmenaan mehsoos karein to bhi aapko orgasm hasil ho gaya. Iss surat mein yeh mushq jari rakhein to mazeed orgasm hasil ho jaeingey agar orgasm hasil na ho to mushq jari rakhein mushq kay tareeqa kaar mein tabdeeli kar lein yeh mushq laet kar, beth kar, kharey ho kar, taangein khol ker, taangein bund kar kay aur jhuk kar bhi ki jasakti hai koi na koi tareeqa kaamyaab ho jaey ga. Jab aap do char baar isi tarah orgasm hasil karlein aur aapko achi tarah ma'aloon ho jaey kay aap orgasm kay husool kay liye kya karti hain to phir iss mushq mein apney khawand ko shamil karlein aur usey bataein kay woh wohi kuch karey jo aap karti hain iss tarah jab khawand ki madad sey do char baar baghaer mubashrat kay orgasm hasil karlein to phir agla qadam uthaein iss doran mubashrat nahin karni agley qadam mein aap ka khawand aap ko mushta'il karey hatta kay aap orgasm kay qareeb pohonch jaein to aap ishaara karein to woh daakhil karey aur stroke lagaey aur sath sath aap ko pehley ki tarah hath sey bhi mushta'il karey aur jab aap orgasm kay bilkul qareeb pohonch jaein to phir ishara karein, woh phir daakhil kar kay stroke lagaey aur sath sath hath sey bhi aapko mushta'il karey iss tarah aap mubashrat mein bhi orgasm hasil karleingi aur kuch arsey ba'ad aap mubashrat sey hi orgasm hasil kareingi. Chu'nkay aksar aurton ko dakhool kay sath bazri ishte'aal (clitoral stimulation) ki zaroorat hoti hai le'haza taweel foreplay kay ba'ad dakhool ho aur iss kay sath mian aap kay bazer ko mushta'il karey mubaashirat kay liye missionary tareeqa aur malika wala donon aazmaey ja saktey hain.
Master aur Johnson ka tariqa donon mian biwi kaprey utaar lein mian deewaar kay sath ya bister ki back kay sath taek laga kar beth jaey uski taangein samney ko pheli hun biwi khawand ki taangon kay darmiyan iss tarah beth jaey kay ser ko khawand kay seeney per rakha ho biwi ki taangein khawand ki taangon kay ooper hun. Ab khawand uskay jism per hath phaerey aur woh biwi ki rehnumaee aur hidayat kay mutabiq uski raano'n kay androoni hisson ko, baerooni lubo'n, androoni lubo'n, faraj aur bazer waghaera ko mushta'il karey daba'u aur frequency kay liye biwi uski rehnumaee karey. Chund din ki mushq kay ba'ad aurat iss tarah orgasm hasil karleti hai chund baar iss tarah orgasm hasil karney kay ba'ad, khawand pehley ki tarah usey muahta'il karey aur jab woh orgasm kay qareeb pohonch jaey to malika ki tarah khawand kay ooper beth kar ooper neechey stroke lagaey aur apney sareen ko mukhtalif andaaz sey harkat dey hutta kay orgasm hasil ho jaey iss mein bhi ka'ee haftey lag saktey hain mushq kay doran aam mubaashirat sey mukammal perhaez karna hota hai yeh mushq rozana 30 to 45 minutes ki jaey.
Nafsiyaati Elaj (Psychological Cure)
Agar
inn tariqon sey bhi orgasm hasil na kar sakein to phir kisi aisey mahir
e nafsiyat sey elaj karwaein jo jinsi masail kay hal ka bhi mahir ho.
ORGASM HASIL NA KARNA (LACK OF ORGASM IN FEMALE)
ORGASM HASIL NA KARNA
(LACK OF ORGASM IN FEMALE)
Female
Problems (Aurton kay jinsi masail) mein sab sey aam masla orgasm hasil
na karna hai yeh masla kabhi ek dum aur kabhi ahista ahista paeda hota
hai mukhtalif researches aur survey batatey hain kay 10% khawateen
orgasm hasil nahin kartiin aur 20% kabhi kabhar hasil karti hain ta'hum
Dr.Kaplan ka khayal hai kay agar koi jismani kharabi na ho to har aurat
orgasm hasil kar sakti hai.
Orgasm hasil karney wali khawateen do tarah ki hoti hain:
- Woh khwateen jinki jinsi khwahish hi kam hoti hai le'haza yeh khawateen jinsi amal mein purjosh nahin hotiin, chuna'ncha orgasm hasil nahin karpatiin.
- Woh khawateen jo shadeed jinsi khwahish rakhti hain jinsi amal mein bharpoor hissa leti hain aur foreplay sey lutfandoz hoti hain unki faraj mein pani bhi aata hai magar yeh orgasm hasil nahin kar patiin.
3 TYPES OF LACK OF ORGASM:
- Woh aurtein jinhon ney kabhi orgasm hasil nahin kya unko ilm hi nahin hota kay yah kaisa hota hai.
- Woh aurtein jo kabhi kabhar orgasm hasil karti hain ya woh aurtein jo pehley orgasm hasil karti thiin magar ab hasil nahin kartiin.
- Aisi khwateen ba'az haalaat mein orgasm hasil kar leti hain aur ba'az mein hasil karney mein nakaam rehti hain.
- Master & Johnson ki research kay mutabiq iss masley ki zyada ter wajoohaat nafsiyati hoti hain jab kay jismani wajoohaat bohut kam hoti hain ta'hum inn wajoohaat ko bhi madd e nazar rakha jaey.
Psychological Reasons:
I. CHAND EHAM NAFSIATI WAJOOHAT:
- Zehni daba'u.
- thakawat.
- koi sadma
- mian biwi kay kharab ta'alluqaat.
- jinsi ilm ki kami, namunasib tariqey.
- khauf.
- kisi kay aajaney ka khauf.
- bachey kay jag uthney ka khauf.
- hamal ka khauf.
- sex kay hawaley sey manfi tasawwuraat.
- mubashrat ko bura aur gandi cheez samajhna.
- iss hawaley sey ehsas e gunah aur jurm.
- jinsi jazbaat kay hawaley sey sharmindagi.
- phir inn jazbaat ko dabaney ki koshish karna.
- mubashrat kay dard ka khauf.
- mard sey nafrat.
- jinsi jazbaat ki kami.
- la shaoori wajoohaat.
Kuch aurtein baqa'eda orgasm ki muzahimat karti hain kyun kay unhein
jinsi jazbaat kay tehat bey qaboo honay ka khauf aur phir sharmindagi
ka ehsaas hota hai ba'az auqaat orgasm hasil na karney mein baar baar
naakami ki wajah sey aurat ko tawaqq'a ho jati hai kay woh orgasm hasil
na karey gi aur phir woh hasil nahin karti iss masley ki yeh ek ahem
wajah hai phir yeh manfi tawaqqa'a iss masley ko mustaqil bana deti
hai. Ba'az khawateen orgasm kay husool kay silsiley mein apni
zarooriyat sey apney khawand ko aagaah nahin kartiin jis ki wajah sey
unn kay jinsi jazbaat poori tarah nahin ubhartey aur khawand mukammal
jinsi ishti'aal sey pehley hi mubashrat shuru kar deta hai. Aisi surat
mein aurat ko kam az kam 10 minute tez stroking ki zaroorat hoti hai jo
kay woh nahin laga sakta chuna'ncha biwi orgasm hasil karney mein naakam
rehti hai orgasm hasil na karney ki ek ahem wajah khawand ka surat e
inzal (premature ejaculation) ka masla hai jiski wajah sey woh mubashrat
kay amal ko zyada der tak jari nahin rakh sakta. Jaisa kay peechey
bataya ja chuka hai kay aurton ki bari ta'adaad ko orgasm kay husool kay
liye bilawasta bazry ishti'aal (clitoral stimulation) ki zaroorat hai
aam haalaat mein zakar bilawasta bazer ko touch nahin karta iss surat
mein ungli sey bazer ko mushta'il karney ki zaroorat hoti hai magar
ba'az khwateen la ilmi ki wajah sey usey bura samajhti hain aur ta'awwun
nahin kartiin nateejatan orgasm sey mehroom rehti hain. La ilmi ki
wajah sey mian biwi mubashrat kay aisey tariqey istaemaal kartey hain
jin mein orgasm ka husool bohut mushkil hota hai.
II. CHAND EHAM JISMANI WAJOOHAT:
Jinsi nizam mein kharabi.Nervous system mein kharabi.
Hormones ka adum tawazun.
Andam e nihani mein waram aur sozish.
Zyada umr.
Kamzor PC muscles.
Depression.
Sharab aur doosri nasha aawar ashya ki zyadti.
Ba'az adviyat kay side effects maslan mana'e hamal adviyat.
Depression aur wahem.
Waswaso'n ki adviyat maslan Zoloft, prozac waghaera.
ORGASM NA HASIL KARNAY KA ELAJ (TREATMENT AND CURE OF LACK OF ORGASM)
Ek
aurat ka khawand kisi doosri aurat mein dilchaspi leney laga, ju'nhi
biwi ko ilm hua woh orgasm sey mehroom ho gaee ek aur aurat musalsal
daba'u kay hamil mahol mein reh rahi thi walid ki lambi beemari aur phir
uski wafat ki wajah sey uska orgasm ka husool munqata'a ho gaya iss
surat mein amooman sadmey kay kafi der ba'ad tak yeh masla jari rehta
hai. - Apney maslaey ko janney kay liye aap bhi apney mazi ko yaad karein kay aap ka masla kab shuru hua uss waqt ko yaad karein jab aapka orgasm ka husool rukk gaya agar aapko yaad nahin aaraha to phir sochein kay kis saal yeh masla shuru hua. Unn dinon sex ka amoomi mahol (bedroom) waghaera kaisa tha, kya aapney apney bedroom ki aaraesh e nau ki thi ya aapney ghar ya sheher badla tha yeh sochein kay kis mahol mein aapney orgasm hasil kya tha aur kis mahol mein nahin. Iss kay liye aap ek notebook lein aur iss mein teen hafton ka record rakhein ek khatoon ko teen hafton kay ba'ad ma'aloom hua kay jab woh aur uska khawand khaney kay ba'ad ya mubashrat sey pehley ilmi guftugoo kartey to woh orgasm hasil karleti lekin agar na kartey to woh orgasm sey mehroom rehti ek doosri khatoon ko apney record sey ma'aloom hua kay agar woh andherey ki baja'ey madham roshni mein mubashrat kartey to woh orgasm hasil karleti isi tarah ek aur aurat ko apney record sey ma'aloom hua kay jab woh teen ya char din kay ba'ad mubashrat karti to woh orgasm hasil karleti aur agar ek do din ba'ad mubashrat karti to usey bazer ko zyada mushta'el karney ki zaroorat parti. Jab ma'aloom ho jaey kay kon si cheez aap kay orgasm mein muaawin hai to phir shaoori tor per usey kar kay humesha orgasm hasil karein.
Woh aurtein jinhon ney kabhi orgasm hasil nahin kya ya zindagi mein chund bar hasil kya unka ilaj nisbatan aasan hai ilaj kay ahem tariqey darj zael hain:
- Iss masley ki wajoohaat ka baghor ja'eza lein aur inka tadaruk karein sex kay hawaley sey khadshaat aur ghalat fehmiyon ko duur kya jaey iss kay liye humari kitaab 'Sex Education…Sab Kay Liye' ka muta'alla bey hudd mufeed hai.
- Mubashrat kay doran aap tasawwur karein kay aap apni faraj kay zaryay haan'pney kay andaz mein saans ley rahi hain.
- Mubashrat kay doran apney sareen aur maq'ad kay muscles ko tight karein.Dakhool kay ba'ad haa'npney kay andaz mein taez saans lein iss sey jinsi jazbaat mushta'il hotey hain aur orgasm kay husool mein aasaani ho jati hai.
- Orgasm hasil na karney ki wajah muscles ki kamzori bhi hai inn muscles ko mazboot karney ki wajah sey faraj ki deewaron ki hassasiyat barh jati hai aur mubashrat zyada lutfangaez ho jati hai jis sey orgasm hasil karney kay imkaanaat bhi barh jatey hain Dr.Kegel ney
- Guzishta ek baab mein orgasm kay husool kay bohut sey tariqey bataey gaey hain aksar khawateen inko istaemaal kar kay orgasm hasil kar sakein gi.
PC muscles ko talaash karney kay liye khuli taangon kay sath peeshab
karein, phir peeshaab ko ek dum rok lein peeshaab ko rokney kay liye PC
muscles ko hi bhee'ncha jata hai chund bar peeshaab ko rok kar PC
muscles ki mushq karein iss tarah aap ko ma'aloom ho jaey ga kay iss
mushq mein aapney kin muscles ki mushq karni hai. Ba'az aza'n aapney yeh
mushq baghaer peeshaab kiye karni hai laet jaein aur apni ungli ko
faraj mein dakhil karein aur PC muscles ko bhee'nchein aur dekhein kya
aap ungli kay gird aenthen mehsoos kars akti hain.
EXERCISES OF PC MUSCLES:
KEGEL EXERCISE:
- Bathroom jaey baghaer PC muscles ko 3 seconds kay liye bhee'nchein aur phir 3 second rest dein phir bhee'nchein phir rest. Din mein teen baar yeh mushq karein aur ek mushq mein 10 bar inn muscles ko bhee'nchein, waqt kay liye ghari istaemaal karney ki zaroorat nahin bul kay iss tarah ginti ginein kay ek hazar do, ek hazar teen, teen second mukammal ho gaey.
- PC muscles ko bhee'nchein phir foran chor dein phir bhee'nchein aur foran chor dein yah mushq din mein teen baar karein aur ek mushq mein 10 baar PC muscles ko bhee'nchein shuru mein yeh mushq ahista ahista karein phir taezi kay sath.
- Aap bathroom mein rafa'a hajat kay waqt neechey ko zor lagatey hain ta kay aap jald farigh ho jaein iss mushq mein isi tarah neechey ko karna hai magar maq'ad ki bajaey faraj mein tasawwur karein kay faraj kay bilkul aakhir mein ruee ka ek phaha hai, aapney usey neechey dhakael kar baher nikalna hai ek push teen char second tak jari rahey yeh mushq bhi din mein 3 bar karni hai aur ek mushq mein 10 bar push karein.
- Yeh teenon mushqein din mein teen auqaat subah, dopahar aur sham mein karein har mushq 10, 10 bar dohraei'n ahista ahista ta'adaad barhatey jae'in hutta kay ek waqt mein 20 bar dohraein agar mushq kay doran paet ya naaf kay neechey baalon wali jagah khinchau aur tana'u mehsoos karein to mushq ki ta'adaad ko kam kardein magar din mein karni teen bar hi hai. Inn mushqon ko brush karney ki tarah apni zindagi ka hissa bana lein yeh mushqein aapki azdawaji zindagi ko bohut khushgawar bana deingi. PC muscles ki mushq kay istaemal ka zikr peechey bhi guzar chuka hai.
Dakhool sey pehley jinsi jazbaat ko khoob bharkaya jaey bazri ishte'aal hasil kya jaey iss doran aapki tawajjuh jinsi ehsaasaat per markooz rahey jab aap urooj per pohonch jaein to phir dakhool ho, mian ahista ahista jhatkey lagaey thori der ba'ad khawand zakar ko baher nikal ley, phir foreplay ho aur thori der ba'ad phir dakhool ho mubashrat kay doran 'stop…start method' orgasm kay husool kay liye ek acha tareeqa hai magar sath hi bazer ko bhi mushta'il kya jaey jab mard inzal kay qareeb ho to jhatkey lagana bund kardey iss martaba khawand zakar ko baher na nikaley aur paet sey lambey saans ley bazer ko mushta'il karta rahey iss doran jab mard kay inzal ka waqt guzar jaey ga to usey control hasil ho jaey ga orgasm sey bilkul pehley bazri ishte'aal bund kar diya jaey aur phir mian stroke lagaey to phir aap orgasm hasil karleingi mard kay rest kay doran aap khud bazri ishte'aal ko jari rakhein taa'kay aap jinsi urooj per rahein aur aap kay jazbaat kam na hun agar bazri ishte'aal jari na rahey to aap kay jazbaat kam ho jaein gey aur phir sab kuch shuru sey karna parey ga iss tarah waqt zyada lagey ga. Ba'az mahireen ka khayal hai kay orgasm hasil karney ki zimmeydaari khud aurat ki hai aur taqreeban her aurat orgasm hasil karna seekh sakti hai apney jism kay hassas hisson ko khud mushta'il kar kay taqreeban har aurat orgasm hasil kar sakti hai kisi bhi tariqey sey orgasm hasil karna iss masley kay hal ki taraf pehla qadam hai. Agar aurat ek baar orgasm hasil kar ley to phir dobara hasil karna aasaan ho jata hai.
TIPS FOR SEXUAL PLESURE
Orgasm
(sexual pleasure) hasil karney ki mushq kay liye ek ghanta mukhtus
karein, jab aap buhat pursukoon hun kamrey mein akeli hun baerooni
madaakhlat na ho kamrey ka darja hararat normal ho khusoosan thandak na
ho mushq sey pehley ghusl karlein kamrey ki roshni maddham ho kaprey
utaar lein saabqa kisi pur lutf tajurbey ka tasawwur karein aur apney
saarey jism per mukhtalif andaz sey hath phaerna shuru karein jism per
hath phaertey huey yeh tasawwur bhi kar sakti hain kay aap ka khawand
aapko mushta'el kar raha hai pehley kam hassas hisson per hath phaerein,
phir zyada hassas hisson per maslan pistaan, nipples, raano'n ka
androoni hissa phir a'aaza e makhsoosa (genital organs) ko chaerein,
baerooni lubon ko aur phir chikni ungli sey androoni lubo'n aur bazer
ko mukhtalif andaz sey mushta'il karein. Saari tawajjuh jinsi lutf per
markooz karein yeh mushq din mein do teen mukhtalif auqaat mein bhi ki
jasakti hai apni tawajjuh apney jinsi ehsaasaat per markooz rakhein
mushq jari rakhein hatta kay aap iss tariqey sey orgasm hasil kar lein.
Iss mein kaee haftey bhi lag saktey hain aur aap doosri teesri koshish
mein bhi kamyaab ho sakti hain mumkin hai kay aap shuru mein bore ho
jaein to phir mushq ka waqt kam karlein ba'ad azaa'n barha lein. Agar
ek ghantey ki mushq kay ba'ad aap ko sukoon mehsoos ho to shayad aapney
orgasm hasil kar liya hai check karney kay liye apni chikni ungli faraj
kay ander daakhil karein aur sath hi bazer ko bhi mushta'el karti
rahein agar aap ko mehsoos ho kay faraj aapki ungli ko bheen'ch rahi
hai to samjhein kay aap ney orgasm hasil karliya.Isi tarah agar ba'ad azaa'n aap ko bazer bohut hassas mehsoos ho to samjhein kay aapney orgasm hasil karliya ya aap bohut sukoon aur itmenaan mehsoos karein to bhi aapko orgasm hasil ho gaya. Iss surat mein yeh mushq jari rakhein to mazeed orgasm hasil ho jaeingey agar orgasm hasil na ho to mushq jari rakhein mushq kay tareeqa kaar mein tabdeeli kar lein yeh mushq laet kar, beth kar, kharey ho kar, taangein khol ker, taangein bund kar kay aur jhuk kar bhi ki jasakti hai koi na koi tareeqa kaamyaab ho jaey ga. Jab aap do char baar isi tarah orgasm hasil karlein aur aapko achi tarah ma'aloon ho jaey kay aap orgasm kay husool kay liye kya karti hain to phir iss mushq mein apney khawand ko shamil karlein aur usey bataein kay woh wohi kuch karey jo aap karti hain iss tarah jab khawand ki madad sey do char baar baghaer mubashrat kay orgasm hasil karlein to phir agla qadam uthaein iss doran mubashrat nahin karni agley qadam mein aap ka khawand aap ko mushta'il karey hatta kay aap orgasm kay qareeb pohonch jaein to aap ishaara karein to woh daakhil karey aur stroke lagaey aur sath sath aap ko pehley ki tarah hath sey bhi mushta'il karey aur jab aap orgasm kay bilkul qareeb pohonch jaein to phir ishara karein, woh phir daakhil kar kay stroke lagaey aur sath sath hath sey bhi aapko mushta'il karey iss tarah aap mubashrat mein bhi orgasm hasil karleingi aur kuch arsey ba'ad aap mubashrat sey hi orgasm hasil kareingi. Chu'nkay aksar aurton ko dakhool kay sath bazri ishte'aal (clitoral stimulation) ki zaroorat hoti hai le'haza taweel foreplay kay ba'ad dakhool ho aur iss kay sath mian aap kay bazer ko mushta'il karey mubaashirat kay liye missionary tareeqa aur malika wala donon aazmaey ja saktey hain.
Master aur Johnson ka tariqa donon mian biwi kaprey utaar lein mian deewaar kay sath ya bister ki back kay sath taek laga kar beth jaey uski taangein samney ko pheli hun biwi khawand ki taangon kay darmiyan iss tarah beth jaey kay ser ko khawand kay seeney per rakha ho biwi ki taangein khawand ki taangon kay ooper hun. Ab khawand uskay jism per hath phaerey aur woh biwi ki rehnumaee aur hidayat kay mutabiq uski raano'n kay androoni hisson ko, baerooni lubo'n, androoni lubo'n, faraj aur bazer waghaera ko mushta'il karey daba'u aur frequency kay liye biwi uski rehnumaee karey. Chund din ki mushq kay ba'ad aurat iss tarah orgasm hasil karleti hai chund baar iss tarah orgasm hasil karney kay ba'ad, khawand pehley ki tarah usey muahta'il karey aur jab woh orgasm kay qareeb pohonch jaey to malika ki tarah khawand kay ooper beth kar ooper neechey stroke lagaey aur apney sareen ko mukhtalif andaaz sey harkat dey hutta kay orgasm hasil ho jaey iss mein bhi ka'ee haftey lag saktey hain mushq kay doran aam mubaashirat sey mukammal perhaez karna hota hai yeh mushq rozana 30 to 45 minutes ki jaey.